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Old 01-04-2008, 03:37 PM   #1
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I am curious, how long after you know your current date/partner when you decide to kiss him/her?
At that time, how long you guys been formally going out?
Only if don't mind, please also share your age and gender.

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Old 01-04-2008, 05:37 PM   #2
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I am a female & 32.

I don't believe there is any kind of set time for when you can share a first kiss. It's one of those things were if you feel it & you want to kiss the person you are dating then you do it.

I think too much analyzing about kissing a person could possibly ruin the moment. It could also get either person a little nervous & the moment can pass you by & possibly continue to pass you by on each date.

Let it happen & be spontaneous.
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im usually going out officially with them for about a month, but weve been friends for a while.
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Old 01-04-2008, 07:09 PM   #4
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it depends what you mean by a kiss, I see nothing wrong with giving someone a quick goodnight kiss on the first date if things have gone well and you both get on well. Then again, a quick goodnight kiss could lead to a longer one if the chemistry was right, would go not further than that though until I was certain it wasn't going to be just a quick fling.

I'm female and 47 by the way, why do you want to know?
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Old 01-04-2008, 07:18 PM   #5
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Thanks.. because I was afraid that I will make myself a fool by allowing the kiss too soon.

We've been on 4th dates for the past 2 weeks, and he seems to be interested in kissing me, yet I haven't let it happen yet....
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Old 01-05-2008, 11:32 AM   #6
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Just do it when it feels right, there are no rules to say when is the right time, when it comes you will know
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Thanks.. because I was afraid that I will make myself a fool by allowing the kiss too soon.

We've been on 4th dates for the past 2 weeks, and he seems to be interested in kissing me, yet I haven't let it happen yet....

you should never worry that you'll make a fool of yourself, things like that usually just happen when the time is right anyway
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Old 01-07-2008, 01:58 AM   #8
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one more question, if I let him kiss, will that automatically be considered that we are in exclusive dating condition?
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not necessarily... just be clear with him about it, either way
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I agree. If you do or don't want to be exclusive, have a talk with him about it & your feelings about being in an exclusive relationship with him.
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Old 01-07-2008, 02:22 PM   #11
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...regardless whether we decide to be in exclusive dating, if say I hang out with other guys, am I considered cheating?
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if you are hanging out as friends there is no problem.
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no way, not to me. guyfriends can be just as important as girlfriends to a person!
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Old 01-07-2008, 10:38 PM   #14
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Same as me Aussie..My guyfriends are too important to me..More important than my girlfriends I would say, I wouldn't give them up for anyone
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i agree, some of my guy friends mean way more than my girl friends, def wouldn't give them up.
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haha yeah sometimes i tell more to my guyfriends and i hang out with them way more than girlfriends... so if a boyfriend thought i was cheating by beign friends with someone... i think they would have to go.
friends before boyfriends right?
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I see, as long I am not doing anything inappropriate, then I am not cheating, hanging out is fine, I guess.
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I say anniemov if you don't want to be exclusive with him that you can talk to him about it. Make sure he knows that if you 2 do have a kiss or 2 that it's just that a kiss & that you don't want to date him exclusively at this time.

That way if you do see another guy it will be ok & also if he found out he wouldn't be hurt that you went out with someone else while being with him.
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Yeah I agree with Sapphire as long as you are making it clear to him what you want then things will be fine
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I didnt really decide it just kinda happen if you are in the moment......you will know when its the right time and place trust me !
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Old 01-13-2008, 11:47 PM   #22
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we kissed... but it still bothers me, although I enjoy the time w/ him, yet when we kissed, I just feel scared, and I want to run away. Is this the sign that I "actually" not in love with him?
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not necessarily, but it might.
it might be just mean that you are not ready, or its too early, or whatnot.

it also might mean you dont feel a lot for him, or dotn want to be with him in that way.
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Aussie is correct. It could me a few different things as she named them before me.

1 thing also is maybe you are a bit too nervous to kiss him, so you have worked yourself up into a nervous ball that when you did kiss him, you didn't feel much because you were too nervous.
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Maybe it means you just want to be friends or maybe you weren't ready yet..Only you can decide that though
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Trust your instinct. If it's right, it'll feel right.

As for me, we were friends for over a year and then when we got together, we took it EXTREMELY slow ((especially because of our society)) so we kissed after 6 months I think.

For me, I had been in relationships where things were rushed and we kissed/did other things too fast and I ended up regretting everything. So I didnt want to make the same mistake more than once after I "matured"

So yeah I wasn't planning on being physical with him AT ALL. But the kiss came naturally and felt natural no pressure and it was magical *shy*
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for me, it was oh, 2 days after we were officially going out. We had pretty much been dating up until then, it just wasn't relaly official.

It didn't feel rushed though. And oh lord, it was amazing...
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1.5 Months or so
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The first kiss was very natural i think we moved in at the same time. I think the first hug was more memorable. I think hugs are underrated, they may not be juicy but they're so warm.
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mine was about a month after we officially started dating, in both serious relationships ive been in.
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i am female 36. well my partner kissed me first and we are still together after 15 years.
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Old 10-09-2008, 03:14 PM   #31
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female 18 =)

im engaged now and my first kiss with him was the first day we went out after like 2 hours lol =)
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nice i guess when you know you know!
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I usually kiss on the first date but I have, on some occasions, hooked up with guys I'm not in a relationship and don't intend to be in a relationship with. I've waited until the second date if I'm not sure I want a second date.
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My boyfriend kissed me on the second date It was spontaneous, romantic and I loved it. We knew each other for two days but it didn't matter on that day...And now we've been together for 7 months already and we're only getting stronger
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Male mid 20s. Its been both a few seconds and long time friends before kissing. It just depends on the setting, situation, your and her (or his) comfort level, and on so many things. There literary is no right answer, unless you are into some kind of religion that has rules for that.
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The first kiss is always nerve-wracking and there are so many expectations that we have of the other person. I think we put too much pressure on ourselves and this first sign of intimacy. I think you'll know the time is right if things are going well and there is a natural chemistry. Also, it is much more worth it if you don't know it is coming!
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