dazedconfused
06-19-2012, 05:12 PM
I could write a whole book about all the **** i've been through with my family, but i'm going to try to keep things short and simple.
I have a lot of issues and tension in my family that has never really been resolved, which I won't bother getting into unless it will help clarify things. My mother has said a lot of negative and hurtful things over the years, and my father has never stood up for me or told my mother that she can't do that. My brother commited suicide when I was 14 (I'm 29 now) and I will never forget how my mother would tell me how I was never that nice to him. I have been with the same girl for over 10 years (married for 2), and my mother has said a lot of negative and hurtful things to her over the years. It has gotten to the point where I no longer want to subject my wife or myself to that kind of environment.
I don't see my parents, talk to them, etc. In an attempt to deal with these issues I have initiated some counseling. We have gone to 2 sessions and I am ready to throw in the towel with my mother, although not my father. I have mentioned a number of things she says and does that have been very hurtful, and she does not admit to one thing, and says that even if she had said that she didnt mean it in the way that I have interpreted it. the counsellor simply suggests to call her out on these things as they happen. which I have before, but she simply rationalizes or justifies her actions. I don't know what to do anymore.
I have a lot of issues and tension in my family that has never really been resolved, which I won't bother getting into unless it will help clarify things. My mother has said a lot of negative and hurtful things over the years, and my father has never stood up for me or told my mother that she can't do that. My brother commited suicide when I was 14 (I'm 29 now) and I will never forget how my mother would tell me how I was never that nice to him. I have been with the same girl for over 10 years (married for 2), and my mother has said a lot of negative and hurtful things to her over the years. It has gotten to the point where I no longer want to subject my wife or myself to that kind of environment.
I don't see my parents, talk to them, etc. In an attempt to deal with these issues I have initiated some counseling. We have gone to 2 sessions and I am ready to throw in the towel with my mother, although not my father. I have mentioned a number of things she says and does that have been very hurtful, and she does not admit to one thing, and says that even if she had said that she didnt mean it in the way that I have interpreted it. the counsellor simply suggests to call her out on these things as they happen. which I have before, but she simply rationalizes or justifies her actions. I don't know what to do anymore.