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Will7687
04-21-2011, 09:20 AM
Hello,

There is this girl which I am really fond of and we have been talking for a long time now-- mostly online albeit. She does have a boyfriend however their relationship is not what it was, although she is quite defensive of it. I'm a bit unsure whether I should keep being friends with her or try to form a relationship with her.

The clincher is I'm not really sure how she feels about me she does flirt a lot on occasion but thats pretty easy when your on the computer. She has proposed to meet up together three times now, she always seems to let me decide what to do such as beach, cinema, she seems ok with it but then one or two days before she tells me that can't make for one reason or another. Why would somone do this I am really struggling to find a reason :dontknow:?

I am in between a rock and a hard place if I tell her how I feel about her she may completely alienate me, I have tried to do this before it didn't go well. I thought it would be really awkward with us from there on in and I would barely get to speak with her, but about two-weeks later she said 'hi' and acted like nothing had ever happened. The alternative is to play it safe and just be her friend, and hope that my heart dosen't shrivel away, what should I do?

Thanks,

Will

stoner
04-21-2011, 06:26 PM
The alternative is to play it safe and just be her friend, and hope that my heart dosen't shrivel away,

Hello and welcome to the ATLF.

Seems to me, you've already provided the best advice for yourself. It's not easy trying to woo the person of interest, especially when she's currently in a relationship with someone else.

Just stay away and focus on other things ... be a friend if she needs one, but don't take it further than that. It just might open a can of worms, and find yourself in the middle of a drama that's too much to handle.

Good luck.

**Sapphire**
04-22-2011, 11:15 AM
Welcome to ATLF!

I agree with stoner. She has someone & that is to be respected by you. Best thing is to back away a bit & be a friend. Don't chat to her as much as you normally do & hopefully things will quiet down in the feelings department for you.

Will7687
04-25-2011, 09:04 AM
Thanks for the advice guys :thumb:

babesbillionaires
05-26-2011, 01:08 PM
Is your problem solved?