Hard to Trust

[Anjella]

hi all...
6 months ago, me and my bf for 6 years broke up...
internet became my outlet from that moment on. and since im not the type who always go out and party and go to places. i learned to chat. there's this one guy, he is from Scotland as he said and his name is Chris (as he said). on the first time that we chat, we are ok... we exchange pictures. i liked him early on and he told me how much he liked me also. everyday we chat. even if we are in a different time zone, i didnt care. in short, we agreed to have a relationship. but then one time he disappeared, no word at all. for almost a week. so i am expecting that he is just fooling me. but one day he popped up on my screen. he is so apologetic and told me that he was sick and was hospitalized. so i believed him. he even scan-email me the receipt of his hospital bill to prove it. and even his bestfriend (AS HE SAID) ym's me most of the time and updates me on his condition. i hold on to him because i loved and trust him so much. the things he say to me are so amazing. he respects me. he is so different from the other chatters i met who is all about sex. we are also planning that he will come here in the philippines and get married. i fell inlove with him so badly.
then one day he just disappeared! it's been almost 2 months now, never heard anything from him. i was so sad and hurt.
up until now i am still thinking what happened to him. if he just wasted time to fool me? or am i that stupid to believe him?
was i really inlove with him? i think i loved him. because i wont be so affected if im not. i send him messages and waited for him but no word.
and now, i don't have an appetite to chat anymore. i just can't trust anyone anymore in the chatroom.
pretty desperate huh...
should i stop chatting? i still have a little bit hope that one day Chris will talk to me, and its stupid. need advice...

[**Sapphire**]

I'm sorry that you are going through this rough time. :(

If you don't feel like chatting to other people online anymore because of what happened with Chris that is fine. It's all up to you, how you feel, what you want to do. Maybe take some time from the internet (or chat rooms), go out & explore other things outside of the internet.

As for Chris, he could have played you, then again he could have lost his internet or maybe he's pretty sick or something. Best thing you can do in regards to him, try to move on. If he can't find some way to get in touch with you or have a friend get in touch with you, he wasn't really the man you thought he was. If he truly cared, there are ways to get in touch.

[~Teej~]

Ah I have been there and it does hurt...best thing to do is to try and forget about what this guy has done and just move on...some people are a waste of time online and mess you about but not everyone is like that...don't let it put you off....you may meet someone nice...keep trying.

[Anjella]

thanks for your thought...
it's true, some of them are just a waste of your time.
hard to find someone you can trust.

[**Sapphire**]

When it comes to online relationships/friendships it's hard. People can be anyone they want online. It takes a very strong minded person that really, truly wants to make friends or make a romantic connection to be honest with the people they speak to online.

I would chalk this up to an "experience" online & you can take what you learned & put it to use the next time you may want to make a connection online.

[stoner]

I've been on that boat before ... twice actually.

On-line, we felt like we were the best of buddies. Even talked about things that should've been left under lock and key. When the thought of taking the friendship a step further came into sight, it just fit in so perfectly, and suddenly it felt as if the world just revolved around us and nobody else.

On-line, I could sense her breath; the smooth complexion of her skin as I held her close; the warmth of her embrace; I could taste her lips; I could smell her perfume through my fingertips - all within reach of a mouse and a keyboard.

After finally meeting face to face, everything changed.

She became harder to reach; the phone calls and e-mails were left unanswered; the correspondences became less frequent; she rarely logged on - and when she was - she's busy with somebody else; eventually, we grew apart and never heard from each other again...

You're not alone with this dilemma ... just take it as a learning experience, and then move on. Time heals all wounds. It's understandable if it seems easier said than done, but time always does.

Good luck. :cool:

[needlove]

hmm your position is difficult, did you meet him at the free online dating communities?if yes, you'd better forget him, because people can pretend to be whoever they want,right? if you want to have a serious one, you should check out the pay online dating website, people intend to seek serious relationship there. good luck