Davey Crockett
04-05-2006, 04:09 PM
Tips On How To Maintain Long Distance Relationship
We define relationship as the condition of attachment between individuals. There is a common bond that connects them. Our present society is so complicated, not counting the busy movement of our daily life. In view of this situation, a lot of people still prefer to live in overly populated cities whereby they spend their time more in the office. That is their existing and comfortable world, to the point that even the name of their neighbor is even unkown. But we still find certain type of relationships such as with families, friends, boyfriends or girlfriends, lovers, and with co-workers.
There is a big challenge for us to maintain honestly the relationship where we are involved. And we need to really nurture and preserve the relationship regardless of some problems. We should be very much committed to it; otherwise, we will be courting disaster to prevail over us. At the start, we should be clear about what we are committing ourselves to.
If there is difficulty in maintaining a relationship between two people wherein they live in the same place, then it is more difficult to sustain such relationship when the other person is geographically apart from you. We had so much time for each other as if nothing can separate us anymore.
Before you know it, it happens unexpectedly. After saying goodbye, the person will be many miles away from us. Perhaps, he or she transferred to another school to pursue an ambition, or a new job was offered to him. We find ourselves involve in a long distance relationship. A relationship which has been taken granted for quite a long time. There is a saying which says, out of sight, out of mind. Now, when we really miss the most valuable person in our life. We are at a loss on how are we going to handle such situation. Emotionally and psychologically, we are affected. There is unpreparedness in us.
There are two different types of long distance relationships. The first is the couple who have known each other for quite a long time. They are planning to live together for life as married couple. However, due to the distance of being separated, complicated problems and present obligations, to be together as soon as possible is temporarily impossible. On the other hand, the couple know each other from somebody, through the cybernet or via an advertisement in the papers. From time to time, they communicate by email, letter writing or by phone.
We have to admit that it is very expensive and difficult to have a long distance relationship. There will be a sudden rise of telephone bill expenses, being eager to open mailboxes, feeling of jealousy and being forgotten and taken for granted, as a consequence of being in loved. It could happen that we will reach the point of getting even to the person because of some rumors of cheating our relationship.
No matter how difficult it is to be in a long distance relationship, still we should not be discouraged but life must go on. We have some tips in order to maintain a long distance relationship. They are as follows:
Put no blame to anybody just because you feel bad about the relationship.
Communicate effectively
Show that you are committed to each other
Preoccupy yourselves with some interests like culinary arts and not just your love for each other
Talk about something on being abandoned, being free and to be disappointed
Decisions should be made mutually
Take separation as something natural to happen
Take the risk and continually trust each other
Encourage one another to be independent
Expectations must be stated clearly
Have quality time for each other, though being alone must be respected
Have some get together once in a while
Exert some effort to make the relationship work for both of you
Avoid being suspicious and jealous
Share the expenses of keeping in touch
We define relationship as the condition of attachment between individuals. There is a common bond that connects them. Our present society is so complicated, not counting the busy movement of our daily life. In view of this situation, a lot of people still prefer to live in overly populated cities whereby they spend their time more in the office. That is their existing and comfortable world, to the point that even the name of their neighbor is even unkown. But we still find certain type of relationships such as with families, friends, boyfriends or girlfriends, lovers, and with co-workers.
There is a big challenge for us to maintain honestly the relationship where we are involved. And we need to really nurture and preserve the relationship regardless of some problems. We should be very much committed to it; otherwise, we will be courting disaster to prevail over us. At the start, we should be clear about what we are committing ourselves to.
If there is difficulty in maintaining a relationship between two people wherein they live in the same place, then it is more difficult to sustain such relationship when the other person is geographically apart from you. We had so much time for each other as if nothing can separate us anymore.
Before you know it, it happens unexpectedly. After saying goodbye, the person will be many miles away from us. Perhaps, he or she transferred to another school to pursue an ambition, or a new job was offered to him. We find ourselves involve in a long distance relationship. A relationship which has been taken granted for quite a long time. There is a saying which says, out of sight, out of mind. Now, when we really miss the most valuable person in our life. We are at a loss on how are we going to handle such situation. Emotionally and psychologically, we are affected. There is unpreparedness in us.
There are two different types of long distance relationships. The first is the couple who have known each other for quite a long time. They are planning to live together for life as married couple. However, due to the distance of being separated, complicated problems and present obligations, to be together as soon as possible is temporarily impossible. On the other hand, the couple know each other from somebody, through the cybernet or via an advertisement in the papers. From time to time, they communicate by email, letter writing or by phone.
We have to admit that it is very expensive and difficult to have a long distance relationship. There will be a sudden rise of telephone bill expenses, being eager to open mailboxes, feeling of jealousy and being forgotten and taken for granted, as a consequence of being in loved. It could happen that we will reach the point of getting even to the person because of some rumors of cheating our relationship.
No matter how difficult it is to be in a long distance relationship, still we should not be discouraged but life must go on. We have some tips in order to maintain a long distance relationship. They are as follows:
Put no blame to anybody just because you feel bad about the relationship.
Communicate effectively
Show that you are committed to each other
Preoccupy yourselves with some interests like culinary arts and not just your love for each other
Talk about something on being abandoned, being free and to be disappointed
Decisions should be made mutually
Take separation as something natural to happen
Take the risk and continually trust each other
Encourage one another to be independent
Expectations must be stated clearly
Have quality time for each other, though being alone must be respected
Have some get together once in a while
Exert some effort to make the relationship work for both of you
Avoid being suspicious and jealous
Share the expenses of keeping in touch