Am I doing the right thing

[~Teej~]

I just need to know whether I am doing the right thing with regards to Adam, I think I am I just need to know if anyone thinks I should do anything differently.

Anyway, on Saturday me Adam and Jim all went out with some friends..there was about 8 of us. We had a really good time ( Silly me, realised how much I really do like him...I even think I love him...which is silly I know as he doesn't even know how I feel...But I really think I do )

To cut a long story short I am talking to Jim the next morning online and he goes and tells me that Adam was interested in a friend of mine that I had invited out to join us.

I completly broke down, I was devasted. I cried mostly the whole of the weekend and I've got to be honest I don't quite know what to do with myself now.

I had to go into work today and see him and I think it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I didn't speak to him all day. Not even over the computer. I didn't even look at him.

The problem being is I don't want to be his friend. I can't. It isn't enough. If I can't be with him I can't risk getting to know him any better, because I will just get myself hurt more.

Everyone went round Jim's tonight after work and I just made up some excuse so I didn't have to go. Truth is, Is that I only didn't go because Adam was going.

I haven't spoken to him in three days and don't intend to anymore..It's the hardest thing I have ever had to do but I think It is for the best.

I feel like I am going slightly crazy at the mo..He's into my friend..I'm so sad :(

[Penguin_Woman]

Well, hun'...does he know how you feel? Last I heard you had decided you needed to do some traveling first and all. Maybe he felt there was no chance with you. We're here for you, Meerkat :grouphug:

[~Teej~]

Well, hun'...does he know how you feel? Last I heard you had decided you needed to do some traveling first and all. Maybe he felt there was no chance with you. We're here for you, Meerkat :grouphug:

No, he doesn't know..I should have told him...But it's just not that easy...I wanted to tell him so much every day.

Now he likes someone else so I just feel emotionally drained the whole time.

[cranberries]

I think you should tell him how you feel about him, before he gets into a relationship with someone else. I wish I had with my guy. Cause you never know maybe he feels the same way, but he figures you think you guys are just friends. If you wait longer it might be too late. And if he doesnt share the same feelings at least you can get the weight off your shoulders.
(Forgive me if Im wrong here)
I think you said in another post there was someone else involved that Jim guy right. He likes you. I was kinda in the same situation. You should tell Jim you like Adam, and try to get his blessing. If he really likes you, he'd want you to be happy. I know that'll be hard, but it's something you should try to do. (I think your situation is harder than mine was, mine werent friends they were enemies.)

[~Teej~]

Ok ignoring Adam doesn't work..I tried and I can't do it..

I was in the corridor today coming up the stairs back up into the office..The stairs are narrow so only one person can pass at a time..He waits for me at the top and then he trys pushing me into the wall and tripping me up..So I just pushed him back and we were laughing..

Aaaaahhh he is so annoying..

Later on near the end of the shift I am nearly falling asleep in my chair ( happens often ) and he comes behind me and pull's my chair back...So I look up and then he is smiling at me walking away with his lovely happy smile..And I smile back..

I don't know what to do..I feel completly lost..I just want to tell him..I think now I have had a few days to get over the fact that he was into my friend, that maybe I should tell him how I feel..

I mean I have only heard from Jim that Adam liked her. I mean I don't know how much he actually liked her. He hasn't even asked me for her number. Or asked Jim to get it for him.

Maybe he wasn't that interested. ? .

I don't know...I am still so confused :(

[aussiecoffee007]

well, not to sound like the devils advocate or give you false hope, but are you sure he likes this other girl? it could be just a rumour. i think you need to find out for yourself and THEN wallow or travel or do whatever depending on what the truth is straight from his mouth, not from anyone elses.

[mashmac]

He is still free from what I can see - nothing stopping you having a go and flirting a little and seeing where it takes you...

[~Teej~]

Yeah I agree..I am going to go for it tomorrow and flirt...:D

He tried tripping me up again today when he was outside on the phone. :o

[aussiecoffee007]

yeah, definitely keep us updated... im just saying, you never know the truth of these matters unless it comes from the persons mouth THEMSELVES. so... until then, subtly flirt away ;)

[Penguin_Woman]

Yeah I agree..I am going to go for it tomorrow and flirt...:D

He tried tripping me up again today when he was outside on the phone. :o
Yes, let us know how it goes. We're rooting for you.

[~Teej~]

Totally of topic but what the hey...

I figured it was easier than starting a new thread..

Prolly not a big deal..

But Jim just requested to be added to my MySpace..Thing is I don't want to add him..Neither of them until now have had it..I like to go there and know I can post whatever and no one will know or think anything of it and now If I add him and I post something by mistake without thinking it could be a nightmare..

Aaaaahhh

Soz I just had to let that out :D

[mashmac]

:) at meerkat. I see it's still chaos!

[~Teej~]

Yep It really is :p