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cranberries
05-28-2007, 06:47 AM
I realized I've fallen for my best friend. The catch is, I've never met him. about 3 1/2 years ago give or take I was contacted this guy. He was told about me by a shared aquantance. We talked for about a week online only. We never got the chance to meet, he moved back home after his mom got injured (really far away). But we continued to talk. we started talking over the phone. We became really good friends.

He had gotten a girlfriend less than 6 months ago and recently (I kinda noticed it when he had found a girl but I wasnt sure) I've realized I liked him. I ended up telling him one night. He told me he has liked me for a very long time, even said that he honestly believes Im his soul mate. But he has a girlfriend whom he cares for.

After much thinking and talking about it. We decided to meet at upcoming festival about halfway between our two homes. It's a 4 day event, but we decided to hang out for an extra day before it. and we are sharing a hotel room...

This is where things become weird. He's in the process of breaking up with his girlfriend (whatever that means). And we're gonna fly to meet eachtother and stay in the same hotel room for 4 nights... I havent really gotten a good look at him (kinda but crappy pictures dont do justice) lol when I first saw his picture when we first started talking he looked sooooo ugly, and the pics from there he looked better after changing his style (I'm afaird Im not going to find him attractive). Oh yeah and I forgot to mention Im a terrible person when it come to being in an actual relationship. I can dish out pretty good advice but i never listen to myself -_-. I rush into things... get talked into things (bad bad news in my last relationship). But he does know all about those little details.

I'm starting to worry. What if I meet him, and I dont really like him? (I'm the kind of person who changes their mind alot) Is it too quick to jump into a little get away together? haha it just seems like I'm gonna be in an awkward situation if that happens (I'd feel much more comfortable if we had seperate rooms, but the only way I could afford it, is by spliting). I talked to him about this, and he's pretty confident we'll get along fine :rolleyes:. I guess it's the only thing to do since we're so far away. I'm not sure about long distance relationships either. I'm also worried about his gf. I guess I dont want to do anything that would jepordize our friendship we have now. Is it worth the risk?

I dont know, I may be thinking way to much about things. Any advice or thoughts on the matter, even some kind words (haha) would be apprieciated.

Penguin_Woman
05-28-2007, 01:58 PM
Well, firstoff I wanted to welcome you to ATLF. We're glad you could join. Also I want to caution you...make sure he really has broken up with his gf before you meet. Lastly, don't worry so much....if you like him online, you will probably like him in person. Looks aren't everything anyway. :) I got lucky with my bf,Tuxie (who I met online). He is very attractive...but I woulda liked him anyway.

cranberries
05-29-2007, 05:39 AM
Yes I believe now some of the things I was thinking about dont make sense. I know for a fact we would get along great. And I think he's going to move back to the area. I'm still concerned about the girlfriend. He's taking a long time to end it. I guess it makes me nervous cause it seems to me he isnt sure himself about us. Or he is having second thoughts. Im gonna try not to worry cause I dont want to put any pressure on him or make him nervous too.

mashmac
05-29-2007, 08:44 AM
The part about meeting up and sharing the same room... Is that really wise?
Perhaps I am a bit old-fashioned. But also I am totally clueless with internet dating. Not really my thing so perhaps I shouldn't say anything.