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ABA
10-30-2009, 07:02 AM
I pretty much fell in love with this girl the first time we met. We became really good friends but I knew she didn’t feel the same about me. I tried and tried to think of her as just a friend but every time we hung out I would just get more and more frustrated with myself. It got so bad that I got in a fight with this guy just because he was flirting with her. She knew that I was pretty much in love with her but she just strung me a long because she liked the attention. I finally broke our two-year friendship and it sucks but it had to be done, otherwise I would have gone insane.

But now I look back and I feel like I made a mistake. I want her back but there is just so many obstacles working against me. She goes to a different college, and it’s in a different state.

The last conversation that I had with her was a few days after the fight. I told her that I would leave her alone and that I would not try to contact her again, that I was frustrated with myself because I had feelings for someone who did not feel the same and that it was unhealthy.

Her answer was that she did not know that I liked her in that way and that she did not know because I never told her how I felt. I told her that I never said anything to her because I was afraid of creeping her out and loosing her friendship altogether and that I took out all my frustration on the guy that was flirting with her.

She then told me that if I like hanging out with her and that she likes hanging out with me then how come we can’t be friends. I basically told her that as soon as I find a girl that I like more than her then her then I would call her and them we could can hang out, otherwise I am way too emotionally invested in her and that she just don’t care. She told me that she does care about me and that she will miss me a lot and that I should try to not lose touch with her.

I feel like I have made a mistake. I want her back but I still feel frustrated about how she might not want me. I feel like I didn’t make it clear to her that I want her as more than a friend. I just don’t know what to do. Does anyone have any advise for me?

**Sapphire**
10-30-2009, 11:49 AM
Well ABA, she made it clear to you that she wants to be friends with you. Do you think you can handle being friends with her right now?

If not, then you can't have her back as a friend. She knows by you telling her that you have more than friendship feelings for her, but she didn't share with you that she had the same feelings.

m-kermit
02-20-2012, 09:48 PM
Maybe you need some time to get over it. I mean those feelings and frustration. If you are still
feel frustrated, confused, and other things. It will be really hard to become friends again.
You both will feel uncomfortable and it will get bad again.

You need time to make sure that you are ok being just friends with her. Maybe try to find someone as you told her. When things get better, then maybe you can become good friends.

wish you luck :-)

evgeniy
05-24-2012, 10:09 PM
In thsi situation I can give you only one advice. Give to you soulmate more time. Time is the main doctor. And if you have made a mistake, the main what you need to get back - it's trust.