Blankz
04-17-2007, 09:29 AM
Hi All
I (29) recently met up with my Ex Girlfriend (31). She broke up with me 3 months ago. We went out to a restaurant which we used to haunt regularly and had an absolutely fabulous time. When then proceeded to head out to a late night cocktail bar for more chin-wagging. The chemistry between us was intoxicating; the companionship between us was unique. Somehow we ended up back at her place & the next thing we were sprawled across the bed doing our thing! After some amazing love making we chatted & passed out as couples (or is that ex couples?) do. The next morning we woke in each others arms & proceeded to act out the very ritual we had done hours before. This time it’s was somehow even more wonderful than before. By us performing our lovemaking again I felt a great sense of relief because it confirmed that our actions were not something that was fuelled by alcohol, but by 2 people with genuine feelings for each other.
After chatting & re-assuring each other that it was “All Good” I left her place with a most ridiculous grin on my face; I learnt later that day that she was too suffering from a similar fate.
The previous evening while dining I asked my ex if she willing to have another relationship with me. Her answer was a resounding No - not with me or anyone else. I asked her why and she said she’s sorting a couple things out for herself and that she is in no rush to get back into anything. I still love my girlfriend & I sense she still loves me & I would be so grateful if I got another chance. But I sense I need to be very patient, give her the space she needs & not rush anything (not a very easy thing to do considering we just slept together). Which leads me onto my question?
What sort of timetable should I keep, I mean I want to see her but not appear over bearing & respecting the space she needs. Do I send her a text once a week, then a phone call every second week, with the hope of maybe meeting up every 3rd week? Do I wait for her to contact me – how do I play it?
I want to be a friend to her and the person she fell in love (+ so much more) with…but I don’t want to spook her at the same time?
Any help is greatly appreciated.
Kind Regards
Blankz
I (29) recently met up with my Ex Girlfriend (31). She broke up with me 3 months ago. We went out to a restaurant which we used to haunt regularly and had an absolutely fabulous time. When then proceeded to head out to a late night cocktail bar for more chin-wagging. The chemistry between us was intoxicating; the companionship between us was unique. Somehow we ended up back at her place & the next thing we were sprawled across the bed doing our thing! After some amazing love making we chatted & passed out as couples (or is that ex couples?) do. The next morning we woke in each others arms & proceeded to act out the very ritual we had done hours before. This time it’s was somehow even more wonderful than before. By us performing our lovemaking again I felt a great sense of relief because it confirmed that our actions were not something that was fuelled by alcohol, but by 2 people with genuine feelings for each other.
After chatting & re-assuring each other that it was “All Good” I left her place with a most ridiculous grin on my face; I learnt later that day that she was too suffering from a similar fate.
The previous evening while dining I asked my ex if she willing to have another relationship with me. Her answer was a resounding No - not with me or anyone else. I asked her why and she said she’s sorting a couple things out for herself and that she is in no rush to get back into anything. I still love my girlfriend & I sense she still loves me & I would be so grateful if I got another chance. But I sense I need to be very patient, give her the space she needs & not rush anything (not a very easy thing to do considering we just slept together). Which leads me onto my question?
What sort of timetable should I keep, I mean I want to see her but not appear over bearing & respecting the space she needs. Do I send her a text once a week, then a phone call every second week, with the hope of maybe meeting up every 3rd week? Do I wait for her to contact me – how do I play it?
I want to be a friend to her and the person she fell in love (+ so much more) with…but I don’t want to spook her at the same time?
Any help is greatly appreciated.
Kind Regards
Blankz