has anyone ever?

[blair1684]

hey everyone, Has anyone ever had an ex who broke up with them try to come back? If so how did they do it? How long after you've been broken up did this happen? Please share your stories :)

[Anonymous89]

Yes. I used to have one ex who keep coming back to me. The reason we break is because she is unable to commit and I was heartbroken by her all the time. So she keep coming back to me for a few weeks after the break-up. But I didnt accept her back because I believe that an ex is an ex for a reason. And the problem that causes the relationship to break apart initially are stil there. Since it's impossible to change a person and I have already done the best in the relationship then the only thing I can do is to let go and wish her happiness.

[**Sapphire**]

I actually had that happen with my fiance a couple times. While we were apart, we had stupid arguments that "broke us up". Either he or I would calm down & call the other & get back together.

Now as for other relationships, no I have never wanted them back or they wanted me back.

The reason for my fiance & I getting back is the arguments we had really were stupid & minor in the grand scheme of things. We over reacted & after we calmed down, we realized it.

[aussiecoffee007]

mine did it 2 days after we broke up, and i kept saying we shoudl wait until he was sure it wasnt just because the emotions were high and he missed me, and eventually he kept yo-yoing back in forth, wanting to get back together, not wanting to get back together ever again, so then we just broke it off forever and for sure and that was it :(

[rubybliel]

Yes... I remember an ex saw a much younger girl behind my back and it devastated me :( but later he told me that he had varied health problems and made me feel guilty about wanting to break up with him so I did take him back but it turned out he lied about that as well >:( I felt really stupid and hurt by that proceeding.

[aussiecoffee007]

aw im sorry ruby, i hate it when a guy is dishonest TWICE. it makes it very difficult to trust people again :(

[rubybliel]

I know, it is pretty certain he didn't value me as a person :rant: The affair with that girl did make me wonder whether I was attractive enough :( but playing that game involving worrying me for nothing was really beyond the pail :rant:

[aussiecoffee007]

yeah i know, he definitely crossed MORE THAN ONE line. it doesnt seem like he respected you at all, enough to even come clean and change, or even enough to stop lying to you. im sorry that that happened because no one deserves that :( i hope that you know hes just a jerk and you dont deserve any of that nonsense! :)

[stoner]

The closest I got to such an experience was with my very first girlfriend. We really did not break up ... we just grew apart when I transferred to a different school, and the distance got in the way between us.

We reconciled one year later, and though she continued to have feelings for me, unfortunately I couldn't return the feelings back. For a while there, we became very close friends, until one stupid misunderstanding made us hate each other almost overnight. By the time, I thought about reconciling with her - many years later - it was too late. I was already living in the states; we're both married and focused in our respective careers and families. I made the attempt to reconcile, via an acquaintance, but since I take it that she wasn't interested since I never heard from her. I left it the way it is, and perhaps the way it will be for many many more years to come...

and yeah ... we never had a formal break up to this day ...

[rubybliel]

yeah i know, he definitely crossed MORE THAN ONE line. it doesnt seem like he respected you at all, enough to even come clean and change, or even enough to stop lying to you. im sorry that that happened because no one deserves that :( i hope that you know hes just a jerk and you dont deserve any of that nonsense! :)

I admit, the second part still occasionally does come to the forefront of my thoughts and has the power to make me cry or appear anxious. I mean as relates to lack of respect... My future husband can always tell whenthat happens if he is there and that I need to be hugged or have his arm around my shoulder.

[aussiecoffee007]

aww well he sounds like a nice guy and you did very well for yourself :) im sure he respects you so much, he sounds very understanding and everything... but it can be a hard thign to get over all the same :(

[rubybliel]

Hard to get over and a bit bewildering too, you are right.

I thank God for my fiance now! Even my mother agrees that he is an especially good person... if she did not know him she would likely go on about the age difference or assert that he was out for a free ride... I can't tell you how glad I am that she likes him.

[aussiecoffee007]

well good, its always so much easier when your parents like the guy! :) maybe the guy was just in your life so that you would really appreciate your fiance for who he is and wouldnt take him for granted :D

[rubybliel]

Yes, it removes so many potential problems :) My daddy is not with me anymore, but I know that would have approved of him as well. If even my mother does, then surely he would... I was a little nervous when he met my mother for an entire afternoon one day... but she gained a high opinion of him, and insists on planting a kiss on him when they meet.

As for my ex... you are right.

[aussiecoffee007]

aww thats so cute! its so amazing when your family becomes one with your new guy as well :)

[babylove621]

i've had that happen before, we were together for 2 years and a for about a year after we went back and forth so many times. we'd met someone new date them it wouldnt work out and end up back to each other. it just made it more heartbreaking for both. we make better friends for sure, he'll always be part of my life just not in that way. he's even really happy for me and my new boyfriend!