cyberspace and attraction

[mashmac]

Can you really be attracted to someone in cyberspace? How can that be realistic? Don't you naturally project only good/nice things at the person on the other end of the computer because really you don't know who they are so you make them to be as you wish they were? I know it happens but I am just wondering how it works. What are the rules in cyberspace?

[Tuxie]

Yeah... it does happen. It happened to me several times. Like I've said before, we all want to be accepted... wanted... desired even. In cyberspace, it's easy. We don't really know the person on the other end, and I guess we always do put our 'best foot' forward. I can't envision only having a meaningful relationship only by cyberspace. There's the lack of physical touch... the human touch is a powerful thing. Plus, there's the factor of never really getting to know the other person. Sure, you can learn about each other... but in the long run, you can't really KNOW somebody until you actually spend 'face to face' time with them, IMHO. :)

[mashmac]

But that is exactly the point - if you are attracted to someone in cyberspace, you actually have to go and see them and that is a big risk to take. How can you know unless you really meet them if you like them but why would you want to meet them when you know that most of t is probably you projecting on them how you want them to be like. I guess I like to complicate things!

Honestly - it's best I stay alone!

[mashmac]

Additional: I mean it's not like you will want to go and see them a few weeks/months later and yet if you don't you might miss the window.

See I am complicating things even further now!

[Tuxgal]

Short answer-You don't. :) Life and love mean taking chances. You may like them, you may not. That's why you gotta meet fairly soon before you get too involved. There was no guarantee that we were still going to like...much less love each other. It's nerve-wracking but as I said...love can mean taking chances.

[mashmac]

I guess you are right Taxgal. You don't know what will happen. It's too risky and yet so tempting. And as you get older you also become realistic. It's harder to compromise. I mean you have to have at least a similar cultural background in common.You've accumulated a lot of luggage. Or being geographically in the same region....

Anyway, I at m not ready to take any chances getting "up close and personal" with anyone at the moment. But I am still checking them out on occasion. :rolleyes:

And curious about things as usual...