Dating/Living Together

[**Sapphire**]

When would you think is the right time to move in with your significant other while you are dating?

[aussiecoffee007]

well, you know me, id have to wait til im married to live with someone! :p too tempting otherwise

[**Sapphire**]

I think it may depend on each person & their situations with the people they love.

Now for me, I met my fiance online, he came out to meet me. We stayed in the same place together. He didn't want to go back, but he did, to only tie up loose ends & then come right back. We took a chance & it has payed off very nicely, we have been living together for getting close to 2 years now. :)

[eaglebaseball]

I honestly would love to move in with my current gf... the only problem is, well, we're still in high school and well, you know... haha

but for me, it realy depends. This girl, I could live with her even if she wasn't my gf, we just get along amazingly well. But I think that I'd have to move in with someone, or if not move in with them, at least spend some time living with them just to make sure that it would work in marriage. I mean, how can you marry someone and be happy if the way they live is exactly what you hate? Granted, it could be worked over, but I just like certainty in my life. haha

[Beautiful Mystique]

When the time is right and I have no idea when that time is!

It is against my religion to live with a man and that was something I told myself I wouldn't want to do but the more I think about it, with the situation I am in right now - I think it would be best if I lived with my BF to see if we could work things out. I wouldn't want him to rush into a marriage straight away so taking some time to get to know more of each other would be a good thing and I believe that we would can learn a lot from each other by living together for a couple of years and then decide if marriage is the thing for us.

[aussiecoffee007]

see mystique i think it would be good too, to figure out how you live with him and stuff, but i think it would be way too hard not to have sex if you are living with the person! and i guess i dont want to put myself in that tempting of a situation.

[daisychip]

i think the answer belongs in the category of how emotionally stabile you both are.

and Mystique......sorry if im about to jump w/o looking but i dont have much time so dont know if you have threads on your "situation".........but if you have some issues going on i strongly urge to get to the heart and figure out some common ground BEFORE living together. i felt the same as you once and found we needed to start over from the beginning.....so moved out and dated and all that all over again......along with some professional aide......lol......we are doing so well now but still have not tried to live together again. been together for 2 years.

anyway.....point is that we need common ground and goals and dreams and ways of dealing with things or at least understanding and tolerance for those along with the regulars of trust, honesty and all that.

[stoner]

It's a choice that we all have to make, whether we like it or not. I, for one prefer having had the opportunity to live together, and then working out the issues and differences that may be a detriment to the relationship, before even considering marriage and the whole nine yards. In the end, if the relationship doesn't work - at least - it was worth a try. It's better to sort and figure out compatibility issues, early on, rather than be in a much larger "mess" later.

[Beautiful Mystique]

and Mystique......sorry if im about to jump w/o looking but i dont have much time so dont know if you have threads on your "situation".........but if you have some issues going on i strongly urge to get to the heart and figure out some common ground BEFORE living together. i felt the same as you once and found we needed to start over from the beginning.....so moved out and dated and all that all over again......along with some professional aide......lol......we are doing so well now but still have not tried to live together again. been together for 2 years.

LOL - our situation is nothing big, just that we live in different continents. We have talked about it and living together would be best for us to see if we could make it or break it. He was married before so I don't want to rush into it, I'd rather see if we fit or not first.

[daisychip]

LOL - our situation is nothing big, just that we live in different continents. We have talked about it and living together would be best for us to see if we could make it or break it. He was married before so I don't want to rush into it, I'd rather see if we fit or not first.

glad i dint jump too far.....hahaha........that would be too much for me Mystique..........very best to you!!

[~Teej~]

There isn't a timescale on this, I think you know when you are ready to live together...it will just feel right.
I do agree though that you should live together before considering marriage as you need to know if you will be able to live together.