my boyfriends a bar fly

[curtis lawson]

Yes I am a 30 year old gay man who is dating a younger guy. I love him dearly but there are some things that really bug me about the relationship. And that he seems to love going out in gay bars all the time and thats without me. He will come over to my house and aroud 10:00 he either says he's sick or he has to go and he does not get home until 2:30 in the morning. I feel he out there trying to find something better. And on the other hand I am wondering if he has a alcohol problem. And another thing is it seems if I go out he really does not like it at all. I really don't care for the bars I would rather have him here with me and if he goes out he goes with me. What should I do?

[Tuxgal]

First off, welcome to ATLF. Secondly...how much younger are we talking about? He sounds like he's maybe 21 or something. Well, have you told him how this makes you feel? Have you asked him if he's looking for someone else? I suggest you sit down with him and talk things over. Let us know how it goes. :)

[smackie9]

You are missing compatibility here. You like to stay home, he does not. I think he may like to flirt with others when he is out. And he certainly can't do that when you are around. This relationship is making you very uneasy. I know you love him, but you can't force him to change his ways. You need to find someone who wants to be with you and doesn't lie to you.