Is it ok to meet with the past girlfriend while...

[encoder]

I have a current girlfriend? My ex-girlfriend is a close friend of mine and I don't want to destroy that relationship. I also would never want to lose my current girlfriend because of jealousy. How can I sustain both relationships without making complications? :o

[c_thina00]

I think theres nothing wrong with that as long as your true to your current girlfriend and your not doing infidelity!

[typingdancingqueen]

Let me just state that it is my belief from what I have seen from couples and from my readings, that jealousy is a sign or symptom of fear and untrust. If the new love is jealous, then they are fearful or not a trusting person of the new partner. Or else they may simply not have much self confidence in themselves. If the new person is confident in herself and feels that her dating partner is being honest and faithful and that she can trust him, then she will not be feeling much if any jealousy and she will certainly not mind your staying friends with the former girlfriend for a short while. You will probably later find that you no longer will maintain that former girlfriend as a good friend, as you'll be spending far too much time and energy on your new love relationship. Your ex-girlfriend and you have lots of discussing to do on your past and have things in common and for a short time that is generally the case, but later on one of you simply breaks away and no longer is friends period.

[seoboost]

To begin with, just start off or keep being honest with both of the women as honesty is the best policy and that is especially true with dating! This sort of thing happens all the time believe me it does! One has several friends that they want to be friends with, not just one perhaps, and then when they date they want to continue being friends with those others and yet date the new person or this other person more seriously and intimately.

You do usually want to maintain friendships with the others, but ya know what may happen is that the others won't want anything to do with ya anymore as they know you are gone for good and they don't want to hear or see you with this new person either. They don't know what to say when you see them, they try to ignore you when they see you. You wonder why, gosh sakes you were friends many long years! Who knows so you go on with your new love and your friends you were spending so much time with act like who cares. When you try to call people you used to be such good friends with and talked to and did all kinds of fun things with, you tell them about your new dating relationship. You think they'd be happy for you and joyful and want to meet your new sweetheart - nope - again they seem kinda quiet and you don't see them and it is real hard to talk to them on the phone as before they were always available to talk to on the phone and now they are never home when you call.

[StuckOnBandaid]

I have to be honest here...does your ex have feelings for you? Although you may not have feelings for her, she may still have feelings for you that your new girl is picking up on. I think the best thing to do is be honest with both of them, but maybe..just maybe try to include them both in things. That was your new girl gets to know your ex and doesn't feel so unsure.

[Tuxgal]

Heh....my love and I ran into something like that before. I'm not gonna go into details but let's just say I learned my lesson about that. Sometimes a choice has to be made. Sometimes you gotta let go of the past to move forward to the future.