Im considering ending my 10 year friendship.

[shesfancy]

Ive known this boy for 10 years. Been the best of friends for 5 years. he asked me to be with him a couple years back but at the time he just got out of a relationship, and I didnt feel like it came from the heart. plus I just had left for college and I didnt know if the long distance thing was the best for the both of us.
he's direct with him being affectionate and caring and supportive but yet ambigious with his feelings towards me he has said things like:
"I need you a friend someone that truly understands me and cares, Im tired of playing games."
He asked me am I single I said YES! then he went into these huge details lol of how he was waiting for the special one to come around then Im gonna show her all my love and appreciation but until then Im gonna wake my turn every one gets a chance its just what you do with it . I WAS like WHOA! he's emotional which I love about him.
My confession is I actually love him, and I can see my life with him BUT he needs to prove himself and Im in college about to graduate. I need him to understand that school comes first, but I give reassurance that I care for him. things that bother me regarding him: He gets mad if I talk about parties, and college social life. He says he doesnt want me messing around with guys and getting myself caught out there. But hes a lil jealous. Whenever Im busy with school he feels neglected and disappears from me. I also feels he goes back to the basics...basic females that is!
He's been gone for weeks withn contact, just like its over and he always comes back, but I have to beat this cycle and let him go he's hurting me
:confused:

[TheBuddyHobbs]

There is only one reason a guy ever becomes your best friend especially that long. It's because he is in love with you. I am a guy so I know things like this. Sure school is important, but school isn't forever. Love however can be a forever thing and it can make you so much happier than well anything lol. Not saying don't go to school obviously, but if you guys love each other than don't let distance separate the heart

[shesfancy]

so idk why he never told me he was in love then.
My problem is whenever he feels something is wrong he goes into some kind of shell.
and talks to girls that OVERLY extend themselves

[**Sapphire**]

Sounds to me like he's labeling your friendship a relationship without you knowing it. He gets mad/jealous about other guys, but he tells you he isn't in love, he hasn't made an gestures that he wants something romantic from you either.

Do you want something romantic/relationship to come from this long term friendship?

[shesfancy]

He has made gestures but their obvious yet somewhat ambigious if that makes sense.
I do want a relationship with him he is amazing.
It's just somethings that dont settle with me like:
Whenever Im busy with school and he doesnt hear from me in a while, he gets upset, but VERY passive agressive.
Whenever things dont go well he starts creating these fake establishments with other girls, and he goes into this shell.

[**Sapphire**]

Have you talked to him about why he does the things he does when you 2 haven't spoken in a while?

Have you talked to him about if he would like to try something more with you?

[shesfancy]

when he hints it to me, i really dont say much.
i cant be in a relationship while im in school,i like him better yet i have alot of love for him, idk what to do

[**Sapphire**]

Why can't you be in a relationship while you are in school?