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vette99
12-23-2011, 09:07 PM
i have a question. i had a birthday a few days ago. my friend asked me when my b day was and i told him 1 month ago and i told him 2 days ago too. he told me that when my b day came he would take me out to strip bar, we go out and eat and he'll go pay for it and when it was his b day i would pay for it. i agreed. that day came and it was my b day and he told me he had to help a friend pick up an exercises equipment and we were to meet later that day in the evening . i got a call later in day in the evening 20 minutes before our meeting and he said he still at the store and cant make it.i was in downtown waiting and hanging around downtown for a few hours so we could hang out together on my b day. ok i dont have a lot of friends and most people in my life are just acquaintances and not very close. for some reason we got closer since we both have something in common-sport we train together. he also said he has a date with girl later that day too.

so i make a big deal of this or not. sometimes i think hes putting bigger priorities over what is important and not.i mean he is just a guy friend and we are both straight guys. i mean you can schedule a date anytime and he new my b day and could have arrange for pick up another day or asked the friend to find some other person to pick it up.
does he even value me as a friend or just a casual so and so acquaintance. i been used before and had and knew fake friends and people

he also mentioned 3 months ago about planning a trip to travel together since he wanted to visit east coast of usa. i said sure and was excited since i have no other person to go with. when i asked when we can go , he says ah you find the cheaper tickets, and find a cheap apartment. its very vague too like when he wants to go . its all up in the air

when his b day comes up should i go out and celebrate it with him or should i just do the samething back to him?
what do you think

**Sapphire**
12-27-2011, 11:53 AM
Welcome to ATLF, glad that you joined us here. :welcome2:

He could have had this last minute thing come up & he couldn't get out of it like he thought at first. As for the date, yeah he could have scheduled that better knowing he was going to spend some time with you on your birthday.

I wouldn't diss him on his birthday, you can be the better person out of this. Just because you missed your day doesn't really mean you should do it to him. I wouldn't bring it up much though, see where things go the closer it gets to his birthday.

Have you talked to him about what happened on your birthday? Have you talked to him at all since then?