Should I ask her again

[slick4u]

One year ago i asked my mates sister out - i assumed she liked me because she would always smile at me whenever she saw me however i was wrong because when i told her (via email) that i like her and want to get to know her further - she stated that she never really saw me in that way - she only saw me as her brothers mate which in many words to me states that she wasnt interested.

Now this mates a close mate so i go to his quite often and I have continued to go to his place since the rejection. Initially i would get nervous around her and for some reason fate kept putting me and her in situations where i wouldnt know where to look...

anyway one year has passed and still continues to smile at me alot - we are talking intense smiles which lead me to smile. she even makes comments when she sees me or asks me questions out of the blue. i have even caught her looking at me when i am not looking.

The question is should i ask her again or should i leave it. i am currently assuming she is jus fond of me and is just a genuinely nice person hence why shes so friendly whereas i am taking it out of proportion because i like her alot...

if i ask her again and she rejects me then i doubt i will find it comfortable going down her place again and she will think what an idiot...

or should i leave it - if shes interested then do u think she will let it known....

I just dont know what to do - if only i could know what she was thinking....

[Riggs]

A smile doesn't always mean someone wants to be with you. She knows you like her now..let her make the next move.. you did your part by telling her. Girls now a days don't have any problem letting a guy know she wants him.

[aussiecoffee007]

yeah i would just let it lie, you told her and you can let her make the next move... she probably just likes you as a friend or as her brothers friend and all that... sorry if that sounds bad but... i think its true. smiles dont mean much anymore :(

[Penguin_Woman]

Yeah...I'd agree. I smile at a lot of people...especially at work. Doesn't mean much of anything. I'm just friendly. If she likes you, she'll touch you a lot...or she may just tell you. I'd wait for a stronger signal first

[Riggs]

I gave good advice, I see. ALRIGHT ! :D

[slick4u]

thanks for the advice...

what would constitute a strong signal???

Normally when i say No to a girl i continue to say Hello to her but I never smile at her or give her the impression that I am interested.

But in this situation why smile at me so much, why check me out when i am not looking, why sit down and listen to my convos with her brother and parents at the dining table, why ask me why i haven't done some things..

if i was in her position and i knew a girl liked me - if i did all that then the girl would assume things have changed and i may have changed my mind..

Because i like her so much i am basically finding it hard to move on...

[Penguin_Woman]

Well, like I said...she'll find an excuse to touch you. It might seem accidental at first...it may be she doesn't realize she's doing it. When you talk she'll maintain eye contact and lean toward you. Things like that. :)

[aussiecoffee007]

a strong signal is just the average flirting, you know, touching you when she talks or staring at you for far too long, or... :)

[gardino]

You know, it was more difficult to read the signal in a nice girl. They smile to every body, spread the friendly felling. In this case you better she can trust. Don't act like you really like her a lot. Give her enough attention, but at the same time don't show it to much. Wait for her to move to the next step.

[pika]

Girls are the most difficult to understand creature. A smile does not mean anything, asking you out for lunch or dinner or even a date does not mean anything. Sometimes you are just made to believe what you think....the more you think the more it matches your perception....

however unless she really makes intimate moves or explicitly express her feelings, it means nothing more than just a friend.

Nowadays the girls are very open, so if she likes you, she will tell you directly...

And since you have expressed to her before, all you can do is ignore her and move on, unless she approaches you and sound you off if not please don't try

[pika]

thanks for the advice...

what would constitute a strong signal???

Normally when i say No to a girl i continue to say Hello to her but I never smile at her or give her the impression that I am interested.

But in this situation why smile at me so much, why check me out when i am not looking, why sit down and listen to my convos with her brother and parents at the dining table, why ask me why i haven't done some things..

if i was in her position and i knew a girl liked me - if i did all that then the girl would assume things have changed and i may have changed my mind..

Because i like her so much i am basically finding it hard to move on...


Thats the difference between a guy and a girl....this is true.....and sometimes they will just tell you, i want you as a friend that cares for me...not a boyfriend.:cool:

[slick4u]

i always dont want to feel that i didn't try once more - ive been told you have pursue girls - asking her once is not enough...

ive known guys to have asked girls out many times before they even changed there mind and heres me who only asked her once....

its a hard one - i will give it a few more months and see what happens.....

[pika]

The choice is yours brother...

the choice for her to say yes or no is up to her....but to me it seems to be pretty obvious that she already knows you like her and what you think of her is only what you think.

However my advice is that, if you feel that by asking her again will not kill the friendship or jeopardize whatever relationship you wish to mantain....then go ahead. I will support you. Its good to clear things up once for all....:p

[Riggs]

a strong signal is just the average flirting, you know, touching you when she talks or staring at you for far too long, or... :)

What? A smack on the butt? :eek: Even I won't go that far.

[slick4u]

hmmm it is obvious that i do still like her because i do consistently look towards her and i try to ensure she is aware of it so to a certain extent u r right if she knows this and she doesnt do anything about it then me asking her doesnt mean nothing.....

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