What would you do??

[lisa843]

I have a friend that has anger issues as well as depression. I have tried to be there for them as much as possible and help them through it all. I really care about this person but they are so draining....because of their negative attitude. I know they care for me and trust me...but they keep pushing people away and have even cursed people out. They have very bad trust issues...they were hurt in a relationship before and it has made them a very bitter person.

What do you have?? How do you deal with difficult people that you care about?? If I didn't care...I would have nothing to do with this person. I just don't know what to do or say anymore??? ???

[aussiecoffee007]

i think that your friendship can only go a certain point, and past that you cant change her or change her back to the person she used to be, only she can change if SHE wants to... i mean, you can be there for her when she needs you but other than that, if she doesnt want to get help... jsut support her in any way you can, but perhaps you just need to detach a bit, you dont want to get caught in her aura (or whatever you call it), but thats still being a good friend...

[lisa843]

Ohh yeah...I meant to add a little more info. My friend is a male. We used to be "an item" on-line...but have never met. He decided he only wanted to be friends..I had a hard time of it at first...but know it is for the best. But I still care for him...and want to "be there" for him...but I am over all the "romantic stuff" with him.
But yeah, the negative stuff is getting to me...

[Penguin_Woman]

I have a friend that has anger issues as well as depression. I have tried to be there for them as much as possible and help them through it all. I really care about this person but they are so draining....because of their negative attitude. I know they care for me and trust me...but they keep pushing people away and have even cursed people out. They have very bad trust issues...they were hurt in a relationship before and it has made them a very bitter person.

What do you have?? How do you deal with difficult people that you care about?? If I didn't care...I would have nothing to do with this person. I just don't know what to do or say anymore??? ??? Wow...I can totally relate. Only difference is I was the one that decided to just be friends, and then later that even that wasn't gonna work. You can only do so much if they aren't willing to work on themselves or get help. You have to decide if this friendship is worth the cost to your own mental health. :)

[Riggs]

Wow...I can totally relate. Only difference is I was the one that decided to just be friends, and then later that even that wasn't gonna work. You can only do so much if they aren't willing to work on themselves or get help. You have to decide if this friendship is worth the cost to your own mental health. :)

Yes, I agree with you.