Am i ruining this relationship?

[isis88]

hi im new here. im seeking advice on my ldr. we've been involved for 4 months. the last few months our fights are over my text messaging habits. he text long paragraphs and ill put something like ya :-) and ... i've told him at the end of the day sometimes i cant think of something to add. i work 40 plus hours and he don't have to work. we talk 2-3 hours every night. ontop of texting dawn till dusk. so. last night this came up again and instead if aruing back i've taken to ignoring him after he accused me of ruining our relationship. in past fights hes told me ineeded help for my mental issues bc i seem unstable if i want to be with him or not and a few other hits i care not to mention. i feel like i've lost so much confidence and im so mentally worn out. wondering if im texting or saying the right thinngs. are these signs of mental abuse? am i ruining our relationship by not texting the right stuff? im suppose to fly out and se him (he paid) in 8 days. im afraid since he don't accept me much on the phone now will he be the same in person and ill feel so bad if i don't go. gr im so confused.

[fusnot]

Go and see him, if he doesn't like you he doesn't, if he does he does.

As far as messages go, talk to him about them, tell him that short messages don't mean you don't like him. Ask him how it makes you feel when you respond with such short messages, and, because it is probably bad, tell him that is not your intention.

[**Sapphire**]

Welcome to ATLF, glad that you joined us here. :)

I agree with fusnot, go out & see him. (Is this your first meeting). If things don't work out then at least you tried, you met him & you can move on when you come on back home.

I would try to talk to him while you 2 are face to face about the differences in the texting etc..

[isis88]

Welcome to ATLF, glad that you joined us here. :)

I agree with fusnot, go out & see him. (Is this your first meeting). If things don't work out then at least you tried, you met him & you can move on when you come on back home.

I would try to talk to him while you 2 are face to face about the differences in the texting etc..

thanks for the input :-) i went and seen him for a week. im planning on moving his direction soon.

[**Sapphire**]

thanks for the input :-) i went and seen him for a week. im planning on moving his direction soon.

Good for you, best of luck to you both! Come on back from time to time & update us, we do love updates. :)

[trishabcarson]

i agree with both of them..

[veragarcia]

Meeting alone will not help. Regular communication helps a lot!