nebulachic
06-25-2007, 06:45 PM
Say you met up with an old flame and hit it off to the point of talking about growing old together. They told you they were seeing someone but that the realtionship was probably dying out soon.
You live across country and start an email affair with them. A few months later, after the emails have become less frequent due to both your schedules, you get an email from the person saying things in the other relationship have actually grown considerably and they have made a commitment to them. Then a few months later you get another email from them apologizing for the pain they caused all involved and a phone call as well.
Then a few weeks after that you get an email from the person's partner. How would you feel about the following? Also, does it sound defensive at all?
__________________________________________________ ___________
Dear Tina,
This is Lisa... the woman Dave is seeing. I contemplated whether or not
to send this for some time now but felt too compelled in light of Dave's
recent contact with you. Several months ago I became aware of your
involvement with Dave last year. At that time, Dave told me he had let you know the last time he saw you, that he was in love with and fully committed to me and dispelled notions of a romantic future for the two of you.
Dave and I have been seeing each other for 1.5 years. He has expressed
interest in establishing a life with me throughout our relationship,
beginning early on, to just this past weekend. I would like to know for
certain things between you have truly been terminated romantically...
particularly since learning of his recent contact with you and also your
plans to visit the area again next month. Unfortunately, I am finding it difficult to fully trust Dave's level of ability to be honest with me these days.
I hold no ill feelings towards you Tina. I am just hoping to engage in
honest and respectful exchange with you to shed some light on the situation
and avoid another potential chapter of this triangle from ensuing.
Please respond to this email, or if you feel more comfortable, call me on
my cell anytime:
Best,
Lisa
You live across country and start an email affair with them. A few months later, after the emails have become less frequent due to both your schedules, you get an email from the person saying things in the other relationship have actually grown considerably and they have made a commitment to them. Then a few months later you get another email from them apologizing for the pain they caused all involved and a phone call as well.
Then a few weeks after that you get an email from the person's partner. How would you feel about the following? Also, does it sound defensive at all?
__________________________________________________ ___________
Dear Tina,
This is Lisa... the woman Dave is seeing. I contemplated whether or not
to send this for some time now but felt too compelled in light of Dave's
recent contact with you. Several months ago I became aware of your
involvement with Dave last year. At that time, Dave told me he had let you know the last time he saw you, that he was in love with and fully committed to me and dispelled notions of a romantic future for the two of you.
Dave and I have been seeing each other for 1.5 years. He has expressed
interest in establishing a life with me throughout our relationship,
beginning early on, to just this past weekend. I would like to know for
certain things between you have truly been terminated romantically...
particularly since learning of his recent contact with you and also your
plans to visit the area again next month. Unfortunately, I am finding it difficult to fully trust Dave's level of ability to be honest with me these days.
I hold no ill feelings towards you Tina. I am just hoping to engage in
honest and respectful exchange with you to shed some light on the situation
and avoid another potential chapter of this triangle from ensuing.
Please respond to this email, or if you feel more comfortable, call me on
my cell anytime:
Best,
Lisa