Mixed signals.

[Interestedboy]

Well sometimes she really seems to like me at times, and she hugs me and holds me and acts like she likes me. We even kissed, but we were both entoxicated at that time. Then at other times she completely ignores me. It could be that I act like I don't like her. This is mostly because I'm real shy. I can't help being shy it's just the way I am, and I get frustrated. I really don't know if she likes me or not, and I am not the person to just ask someone if they like me or not. Advice will be appreciated.

Sorry for the horrendous English that will have to be tolerated. English is not my first language

[~Teej~]

Your English is fine, no problems there :D

Secondly welcome to ATLF :)

Thirdly mixed signals can be annoying. One day that may act like they like you and other they hardly speak to you. The only real way you can stop it is for one person to make a move. Usually when the mixed signals are happening it's because both the people are shy and are waiting for the other person to make a move.

Try and be brave and ask her if she would like to go on a date with you. Nothing big. Just to see how you both get on.

[Tuxie]

First off, welcome to ATLF. :) And... your English is not that bad... trust me.

Hmmm... yeah, shyness doesn't help any. Sorry, but I don't see any other way than just asking her... at least let her know how you feel.

[aussiecoffee007]

hehe im dating someone from colombia, so there is NOTHING to worry about your english, its perfect :)

i have to second (and third) whats been said... i think you just need to be straight up with her, its the only way to find out if theres something real between them...

[Penguin_Woman]

I...uhhh fourth that. lol Welcome to ATLF. Yeah pretty much all you can do is ask. :)

[eaglebaseball]

I'd help, but I don't know anything about mixed signals other than I get them all the time. Half the time a girl will walk with me and we're really good friends, and then other times she'll walk past me and look the other way or pretend like we barely know eachother.

This **** is too difficult for me. Maybe I"ll just be single the rest of my life. haha

[stupidm]

Maybe she is waiting for you to move on, many times, guys are suppose to take the initiative.
and i think this kind of situation happens all the time, i myself is in this situation too, this is just like a prisoner's dilemma, you know, both do not want to 'confess', that is the theoratical equilibrium, if anyone of you would confess and the other dont, then the other will be better off. anyway, love is not exactly like a prisoner's dilemma.

[Penguin_Woman]

One more thing...try to stay sober when your with her. When people are drunk they do some nutty things. Then it's not clear why they did it. Alcohol won't make her mixed signals any clearer. :)

[aussiecoffee007]

i agree with tuxette, people dont always act the same as when they are sober or drunk... and they can be polar opposite personalities you know?