Leading on? (short)

[nebulachic]

This is to everyone but the ladies in particular. If you were dating a guy and he asked you one day: "How do you feel about becoming a step-mother?".. and said things like "this feels like home"... "this feels right"... "I'm in love with you"... "I love you"... Would you think he was thinking about having a life with you (ie, marriage or living together)?

[aussiecoffee007]

yes, i would... especially because of the, how do you feel abotu being a stepmother thing, because honestly, i dont think he just wants to know how i generally feel about the whole thing for no reason :)
why? :)

[Penguin_Woman]

Yes, I would think this. Seems like more than just idle curiosity

[mashmac]

Yes, I would.

[~Teej~]

Yes..I would think he was looking to make you a major part of his life he would not be asking just anyone that

[aussiecoffee007]

care to, er, explain why you were asking? its cool if you dont, im just curious, what else is new :)

[nebulachic]

I'm asking because those were things my b/f of almost 2 years said to me very early on when we started dating. He was separated 2.5 years when we met and he got his divorce going about 4 months later (he said 75% bcuz of me).

Around that time I asked him if he ever sees me as his next partner when he talks about his new life. He said: "I'm not sure how I'm going to feel about this relationship once I'm divorced. I'm not saying I'm going to go out and screw every woman I see but I am going to be picky and ask a lot of questions... that's why I've been asking you a lot of questions. You have to be a good consumer <<when it comes to a marriage partner>>"

It thru me for a loop because I kind of thought he already had picked me(I knew I was in love) and it led to all kinds of problems after... namely.. I kept thinking he was just going to dump me as soon as he got divorced and look for something better. He said he knew he didn't "look good on paper" being separated and that that was why he hadn't joined a dating website or anything.. plus one night when I tried to break it off he said: "Please don't leave me.. no one will want me like this <<separated>>" which wasn't even true! 3 other women before me had been interested in him in a big way!

[aussiecoffee007]

mm thats strange, if he doesnt like to be called separated but didnt get his divorce on right away...
and just out of curiousity (duh) where are you from? i noticed your quotes are sort of like the spanish ones we read in cultura and such...

[nebulachic]

Hmmm... not sure which quotes you are referring to... but I live in the US

[aussiecoffee007]

oh sorry, im a bit confusing at times... :)

"plus one night when I tried to break it off he said: "Please don't leave me.. no one will want me like this <<separated>>" which wasn't even true! 3 other women before me had been interested in him in a big way!"

"He said he knew he didn't "look good on paper" being separated"

so why didnt he get his divorce on earlier?

[nebulachic]

Kid and financial ramifications (although he is above middle class.. so it's all very whiny to me)

[aussiecoffee007]

haha i see... well, maybe hes just struggling from his divorce more than he realizes, because he seems to be a bit strange right now :(