Mike L's update on a new girl

[Mike L]

A little update I've met this girl who I've been talking to for about 2 months now to is lives in Hawaii but she is going to a concert in PA in December but stopping here in CT before so we can meet up I noticed in the past few weeks she's been a lot more personal in her asking me questions and we have been talking longer (2 hours at a time) and we have been calling each other and sending text messages.

She was telling all her friends how she is so excited to meet up with me and her friends were like uh boy.. a person on the internet.. but she told me she thinks im a very cool person and one of her best friends.

I'm curious where this is going to lead to I told her I had plans to take a vacation to Hawaii in 2012 and she was more then willing to show me around and stuff.

[**Sapphire**]

Sounds like it might be something positive. I say take it 1 day at a time, meet each other & see where things lead.

I made this a new thread for you as this is a new girl & a possible new relationship. :)

[Mike L]

Yeah it seems like something will come good from this.. Not going to rush anything here I wonder if she feels nervious about meeting me.

[**Sapphire**]

She probably does feel a bit nervous. It's the unknown if you 2 will get along, if you 2 will like each other etc..

[Mike L]

Yeah well I will be hoping for the best!

*edit

haha I knew she would not let a full 48 hours go by without calling me she just called to check up :D And she remembers my birthday is tomorrow awww :)

[Pink]

Sapphire said to take this one day at a time and that's the best thing to do. I do wish you the best of luck and I hope you two have an amazing time together when you meet up.

[Mike L]

Thank you I will post what happens after we meet up

[**Sapphire**]

Happy Birthda to you Mike L!!

Yes please keep us updated, you know how we love updates.:)

[Mike L]

Thank you for the birthday wishes :D

Will keep you updated

[Mike L]

Hmm I think this girl is hitting on me she's 19 and I'm 26 so i feel kinda uneasy.. maybe that is something that goes away but I feel more uneasy because I know how girls are at that young age.. on the plus side I'm very good friend's with her parents and family.. matter of fact next month I'm about to help them move back into their house after repairing the fire damage.

Anyways long story short I've noticed she is a lot more talkative now.. like one day she was laying down on some steps and I had to cross over her and she was like I like when you cross in front of me, so today she stops by twice asking how I was doing while she was waiting for a friend and we were talking small talk and whatever and a friend came by and whispered something in her ear then she got up and left but before she left she was like I love you Mike! I smiled back, The friend who whispered whatever in her ear stayed in the room with me but he never said anything regarding to what he said to her.

I dunno should I give it a shot?

[**Sapphire**]

If you think she is interested & you are interested in her as well, why not give it a shot?? She is legal adult age, so there shouldn't be any problems there.

You will never know if you don't take a chance.

[Mike L]

The funny thing about this one is it's not so much as not wanting to ask it's what others might thing.. (AKA the gossipers.)

Plus I know how young girls are.. But I will have to say I've been around her family for 13 years so I will say she has matured better then most other 19 year old's I seen.

[aces88]

Personal philosophy of mine is too look before I jump, then dive head first. If you're willing to take the risk, go for it. And don't worry about what others might think.

I see too many people following the herd mentality these days, its better to make up your own mind over what you want and feel.

[Mike L]

You do have a point I should see her again sometime this week

[**Sapphire**]

Yeah I agree totally with aces! Don't worry about what others may think. You are your own person & you don't need anyone's approval on anything regarding who you date or really anything in your personal life.

[Mike L]

I'm waiting to see how this is going to play out since she likes to flirt with me time to dish a little back :)

just something came up on Saturday so I was unable to see her but sometime this week I should.

[aces88]

Looking forward to the update then :D.

[Mike L]

friken snow :( not open today.. maybe tomorrow :P

[Mike L]

Today was an interesting day... I stopped by her family's house to see if they needed help with anything I figured since I have the Subaru I better head out.. glad I did :)

Anyways she had to go to school today so in the end I wound up driving her for about a 35 min drive to the school she was pretty silent but she told me she was tired. She asked me if I was still going to be around when she comes home, and I said maybe not.. but in the end I was.. 4 hours later I was still at her father's house because I was tired.. he was nice enough to let me use her nice blanket.

anyways fast forward a few hours later when she comes home she sees me in the blanket and she was all shocked but that was ok :P anyways she had a service to go to tonight and she was like "Mike what should I wear tonight?" And I picked it out. So when we went out she was like Mike picked this out and everyone was like he did?? lol it was nice..

She hung around me pretty much for about 2 1/2 hours resting her head on my arm.. slapping my arms.. sitting on my leg.. putting one of her legs up on my leg.. and then she was like Mike don't look (I was standing in-font of a reflective glass window) and she had to adjust her skirt

now the not so nice stuff..

Me and a friend were talking to her and she's no virgin that's for sure.. I mean I lost mine at 18 but still.. She seems pretty active.. but I know they say girls mature faster then guys.

So at the end when it was time to leave she gave me a hug and told me she will see me again on the weekend.


Oh and before I forget while she was spending all that time with me she asked me if I had a girlfriend so I kinda split off to talk to another person who was standing next to me (it was a test for persistence) and sure enough she was like Mike you did not answer me.. So I told her nope I'm single and she was like how come?? And I said you tell me? Then she gave a pause then she said something else I can't remember

In my guess she was testing the waters?

I'm not sure if she was joking but her mom has some event I have to go to and I think she might be coming and she was like Mike we should share a room and I was like OK!

[**Sapphire**]

Sounds kind of promising. Maybe she does feel something more from you & she's testing the waters.

[Mike L]

I think so too I will keep you posted

[Mike L]

:D close to sealing the deal :D

hah she came to see me today however a friend who was around she does not get along with was near me so she just stood away but facing me leaning against the wall.. Anyways her friend was sitting on the steps grinning when she walked in and kept looking at me, At first she was going to whisper something in my ear but she changed her mind but I have an idea what it is..

I mean when someone is grinning like that and looking at me and her I know the outcome :P

Anyways she only stayed for a bit but we made eye contact however too many people were around to really talk since a lot of people gossip we don't want a bunch of people knowing yet.

The part that sucks is the friend that they don't get along with she's always touching me in a way I never liked her too she thinks it's cute but for some reason she never gets the hint.. And I know if she sees me with the girl I'm trying to go with she's going to be non stop on my case asking why her and all that..

[aces88]

Cool beans, I wouldn't worry so much about other people. Other than that it does sound good.

[Mike L]

I wonder when I should tell her dad or let him find out on his own?

It was cute yesterday she came in and stood beside me and put her arm around my waist and I did the same.

[**Sapphire**]

Sounds pretty positive Mike, good for you.

If this other girl that you aren't in to & your girl doesn't care too much for, keeps on touching you etc., be upfront & maybe a bit forceful & tell her to back off.

If you have told her in the past & she doesn't WANT to get it, then you need to say something like, "look I'm not comfortable with you always hanging on me, can you let up on it., I've asked you the same thing in the past."

[Mike L]

I might have to get firm with her because it's the kind that is stubborn and hard to understand and the girl interested in me showed me her displeasure of her being around

I'm thinking about letting her dad know something just so he will hear it direct from me. Besides I can always count on him for personal stuff I will not be one bit shocked if he already knows or his daughter said something to him.

[Mike L]

Wow it went better then I thought telling her to stop with all the talk.. I told her and she was telling me she was "Just playing" and I said to her well still...

And she said Ok I'll stop and that was that.. Never questioned why or anything.

[Mike L]

Oh my I hope I did not do anything wrong I was talking to her sister last night about her long story short I dunno if she was playing around but she was like im not speaking to you but she later did anyway.

[Mike L]

hmm I guess you can't edit after awhile?

Anyways the full rundown is.. the night before I spoke to her older sister about her (nothing bad0 just curious and all.. I was like she's been giving me more hugs and all blah blah.. and I was like she has a cold and all and I know she did not want to give me a cold but it would of been worth it to get that hug.

So fast forward today she was like I'm not speaking to you Mike and I ask why and she's like you played me.. And I'm thinking like how did I do that?!?!? So I got no hugs at all today but... but.. she still came up to me but not as talkative.. but she was spraying some perfume and I was like wow you smell good and she said in a low voice "I know I do" and I smiled..

So anyways it was time for her to head back home but I was warming my car up and i seen her go in her dads car so I was just looking on my phone and next think I know she was in my car sitting down in my passenger seat so I asked real quick why she was mad with me and she said because I played her??

Then she got out but then we met again at her fathers house (I waited up till she came) but did not say much more then that.. So the older sister was telling her how the cat likes hanging around me which he never does to new people but he likes it and she was saying to her how that could be her cuddled and all..

Anyways long story short she never said I don't want to date you or I don't like you like that, it just seems she got hurt in some way?

I'm thinking maybe her sister said about the cold thing backwards like maybe "It would not be worth it" instead of "It would be worth it to catch your cold"

I was thinking about letting her cool down for 3 days or so? Funny thing is all that talk and all she still made eye contact with me and smiling at me and I pointed at her and she pointed back at me.

I know I been out of the loop for awhile but I'm confused... I wanted to talk to her but alone in private.

[aces88]

Cat and mouse flirting? Actions speak louder than words, if she's still being playful, then don't sweat the small stuff. Try hanging out with her one on one, or go out with a group of friends with her.

[Mike L]

She cant be that mad since she got in my car and allowed me to slap her rear

[Mike L]

I'm looking at this here.. I feel I'm past that but I've never seen most women display that acting like they are mad about something but not really.

Interesting if you ask me because all that saying she was mad each time I would touch her rear she would playfully slap me on the shoulder..

Ahh women hard to read and understand :P

#7

http://www.endates.com/18-signs-that-a-woman-likes-you-%E2%80%93-how-to-recognize-signs-a-girl-likes-a-guy.html

[**Sapphire**]

Sounds like she is in to you, why not ask her out to a movie or something? Something one on one where you 2 can talk & get to know each other more & most importantly find out how she really feels.

[Mike L]

I will I'm going to ask her father first to get the ok then I will proceed to ask.

I'm curious what the response will be.

[Mike L]

Well I got the ok from the father bur she is still acting like she is upset I almost did not get a hi at all today

[Mike L]

Crap I know why she is mad at me.. it took me awhile to notice but she is mad because I spoke to her sister about her and I did it via 3rd party.

In other words I was asking about her from her sister when I should of just went to get to get some info..

Now I have to ask for forgiveness.. I'm sure she will but it's not going to be a walk in the park.. I'm guessing that where the "you played me" came from..

[**Sapphire**]

Well that sucks! I would apologize & maybe let her know why you talked to her sister. Let her know it won't happen again & see where things go from there.

She can't be that mad for a long time though. In the grand scheme of things what you did isn't that bad.

[Mike L]

yeah I really want to talk to her now I feel bad now about it but I will be apologizing to her

[Mike L]

What the heck she says shes not mad at me... Im very confused..

I asked about dinner date and she was like let me think about it.. I guess thats a no?

[stoner]

I asked about dinner date and she was like let me think about it.. I guess thats a no?

I think you just read her mind, without realizing it. ;)

Good luck.

[Mike L]

it's a slim chance but most often then not it means no

the most annoying part is going to be annoyed now when having to be around near her family I already feel like not helping them move back into the house

[aces88]

it's a slim chance but most often then not it means no

If she's been playfully going back and forth with you I'd say different. Try being a lil more persistent. It just might pay off ;)

[Mike L]

We will see because this is her first time getting so close to me like this

[**Sapphire**]

I would think it's a no, but then again, she just might be playing you along (not in a bad way though).

[Mike L]

Her father was in the car too which could of had a effect on what she might of said.. she might not know that I already talked to her father about her but then again they are kinda close.. never know.. I will know more when I see her in person..

and now I can type without feeling cramped on the cellphone.. How ALL of this started was like say months and a year ago she was hardly acting like this at all.. normal and maybe once in awhile she will say hi to me... but I did not notice it at first but I noticed she wanted to hang around more and speak more which I did not put much thought into it..

It does sound like a classic stringing along thing.. she got close so quick and then her asking me two weeks ago was I single.. I thought to myself yesterday after I spoke to her why would she ask me so many times if I was single then make it seem like I was not telling the truth.. it had me confused.

[Mike L]

I forgot to add that her whole way she dresses has changed like less revealing clothes and the night she got very "touchy" She had me pick out her outfit that night.

I mean I'm not a girl but all that sounds like playing hard to get because up to the point before I told the older sister about the younger one I guess she still had no clue (I guess me putting her hand around her is not enough) after that day she got super silent if I don't see her tonight then I will surely see her on the weekend.

[Mike L]

This is stupid.. at least one can respond back to you on facebook chat.. I'm not sure how one logs in but sometimes it never works right (i've tried) so I will give it a benefit of a doubt.

[Mike L]

little update...

I sent this message to her early this morning as soon as I woke up (thought what to say before bed last night)

It went like this..

"I understand that you are upset and hurt because I spoke to your sister that night about you, It is evident that I made a mistake in not keeping it personal between you and me. I sincerely apologize for my actions and wrong doing and that will never happen again.

Seeing you upset is one of the worst feelings for me I miss the hugs in the morning and you coming in to check on things I just hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me."

Her response was:

"I'm not even mad...its really lik wateva"

Me:

I just wanted to know and make sure... So I guess I get no more hugs? You looked good tonight

Her:

Thanx

[**Sapphire**]

Sounds like she's really not mad.

[Mike L]

I can't picture what I could of done wrong to have her act cold and distance

She got her rose today but I made one mistake when I placed the order.. I forgot to put my name on the card out of all things... only 3 people knew I was going to send her one funny thing is she does not know who it was but she says I hope I like him if not then it was the thought behind it.

I do have to stop by the house tonight to drop something off for her mother but I hope to hear something.

[Mike L]

well she got the rose and this is how it played out.. one mistake on my part.. but minor.. So on facebook she said she got a single rose from someone but does not know who and she said she hope she likes him and if not it's the thought that counts.. Why she said that is because I forgot to sign my name but it could play out to keep her guessing..

Anyways they later figured out it was me I got no thank you but I went ahead and told her this morning and all her response was when i told her I hope she enjoyed the rose and enjoy the rest of your day all I get from her is "yup"

WTF is that? If you're not mad at me then WTF is wrong then?? I mean ffs throw something my way so I know what the hell is going on.

[Mike L]

I think I'm going to break it off too much effort.. If she's playing games or whatever or not sure what the hell she wants I don't have time for it.. If she wants to speak that fine at this point if she said hi to me I might not say hi back.. and No I don't care about the money I spent on the flowers that's replaceable.

[**Sapphire**]

It just might be best, if she didn't seem to really care about your nice gesture of a rose then it could be that she isn't interested in you that way.

It may not have anything to do with her being mad, just not interested & she's playing head games.

[Mike L]

I was speaking to her ex and he thinks she might be bipolar she just went nuts he said.. but it had me thinking why did I not think of that before? because back in Jan she went off on this older women and like everyone really had no clue why.. and she got kicked out of the house for a few weeks..

anyways that's all I needed to hear from him.. I'm only keeping it at a friendship level.. I plan on not really speaking to her for 2 months however or any interactions.

OK now back to another 2 years of searching.. none of the women my age look my age!! they all look like they are in the late 30's

[The Gr8 Eight]

hmm I'm sorry mike thats rough. Maybe keeping that on the friendship level after it all happened will be the best thing. Another ATLF member from CT eh :)

Just remember: Keep your head up.

[**Sapphire**]

Yeah kind of a big blow to you, but there are more women out there.

[Mike L]

yeah I was more hurt then anything else.. I mean a simple thank you would of been nice..


I saw her and her sister yesterday night and while the younger one did not speak to me her older sister did and she asked me about who the rose was for and I told her, and i told her that her sister acted like she did not want to speak so I was like whatever.. then she tells me how she will come around.. I just walked off and went about what I had to do and left it at that.

[Mike L]

hmm I'm sorry mike thats rough. Maybe keeping that on the friendship level after it all happened will be the best thing. Another ATLF member from CT eh :)

Just remember: Keep your head up.


I hate to say it but CT sucks for girls I had way better luck in CA (home state) and NC.

maybe it's a fairfield county thing but it sucks..

[The Gr8 Eight]

I hate to say it but CT sucks for girls I had way better luck in CA (home state) and NC.

maybe it's a fairfield county thing but it sucks..

I agree! I live in Windham County though. I have had some good and bad relationships here. So I feel you on that one.

[Mike L]

I don't feel so bad now

[Mike L]

i love how this girl is still trying to make me jealous and all.. she was right in front of me and I said hi and she just turned real quick then walked away.. but yet I'm in the car with my mom and i see her walking near the car and I'm like here she comes.. and sure enough she glances over in the car at my mom and then me to see who was in it then walks off..

ugh too much for me

[aces88]

Well that blows, but at least you avoided playing the games sooner than later. Not much else to do except brush the shoulders off and move on.

[Mike L]

yeah.. well I'm more depressed since I just got into a car accident this morning.

[**Sapphire**]

yeah.. well I'm more depressed since I just got into a car accident this morning.

Sorry to hear that Mike. Are you OK?

[Mike L]

Yeah I'm OK

[Mike L]

man I hate to bring this up again but the more I ignore this girl she gets bolder lol....

This was yesterday

check this out.. so trying to avoid her and what does she do yesterday?? She goes in the same room as me, as soon as I walk out and close the door she walks in.. so I walk out to make a phone call and do some stuff and come back in and shes sitting down.. So i was like screw it I gotta do what I need to do in here, so I was in the room for awhile with her and her friend.. they next spoke direct to me but she tried to make me jealous by saying how this guy she likes gave her she flowers she showed everyone else but me and then she said they smelled so good.. then she says I hate playing football (never does play) because guys just want to touch her butt.. then shes says you know I'm still single anyways.. I showed no emotion.. Only one time she caught me glancing over while she was going on her trying to make me jealous so I walk out again then later walked back in and she was like who is that Mike? (me) and she said again and I said What? and her friend said shes trying to play a game of guessing who comes in the door.

From what I heard is her last boyfriend got very jealous it's obvious it's not going to work on me.

[pisceanme]

i figure out that the relationship is promising..and it's quite obvious that she wants you...all you need do is to keep communicating with her until you finally meet each other...

[The Gr8 Eight]

Well that blows, but at least you avoided playing the games sooner than later. Not much else to do except brush the shoulders off and move on.

I agree. Head games are the worst out of everything. :/ Good thing you got away in sense when you did.

[stoner]

man I hate to bring this up again but the more I ignore this girl she gets bolder lol....

This girl needs to grow up dude ... she ain't worth your time and effort. These head games brings out the worst in people - not just the culprit - but the person it is intended for. *If* I were you, I turned my back and walked away from this girl a long time ago.

One day, she'll be watching you from a distance holding hands with a girl who appreciates you for who you are. When that time comes, she'll come to her senses and find out who's the real loser.

Good luck.

[aces88]

Agreed, the sweetest revenge is a life well lived.

[The Gr8 Eight]

This girl needs to grow up dude ... she ain't worth your time and effort. These head games brings out the worst in people - not just the culprit - but the person it is intended for. *If* I were you, I turned my back and walked away from this girl a long time ago.

One day, she'll be watching you from a distance holding hands with a girl who appreciates you for who you are. When that time comes, she'll come to her senses and find out who's the real loser.

Good luck.

as stoner said, head games are just like terrible. It isn't really worth it because even if you TRY and deal with it, it just comes back truly and it makes it worse for you. :/

[stoner]

I once knew someone who was so brokenhearted, after this girl that he liked treated him like dirt and then dumped him.

This girl went as far as letting others know what she did to him, and even severed ties with her close friend, after she tried to console him.

Make a long story short, her friend and this guy - over time - developed feelings for each other and their relationship blossomed, that they've been married for six years with two beautiful daughters.

I'm mentioning this, because I will never forget the other girl's (the one who rejected him) face on the day of their wedding. While she may have mentioned how happy she was for them, it was obvious that as she watched from a distance, a part of her wished that it was her who was walking on that altar instead of her friend.

She never showed up at the reception ... whatever regret she felt that day, I wished her well ...

[Mike L]

Wow that's very touching I wonder why she decided to show up at the wedding?

having said that I've moved on from that girl.. matter of fact (still testing the waters) A friend of mine who I met online 5 months ago we've talked for awhile now and we feel close enough that we can meet in person.. yes she does live in another state in MI however she did come to NY about a month ago but her friends would not take her to CT :-/

Anyways in the past few weeks she's been getting closer we text everyday and she calls me almost all the time now asking me what I'm doing and she tells me things that are annoying her.

She's awesome she's a year older this this past girl but SOOO much more mature it's crazy, she's been telling her female friends all about me and how I'm coming to see her and she's excited and all.

I will be driving so it's a 14 hr drive but here is the part I'm confused.. when we meet should I just do a hug or hug with a kiss on the cheek or just play it by ear? She told me on the phone she hopes I can stay 1 or 2 days so she can show me around and meet all her friends and what not.

Now the creepy part.. lol her birthday is a day after this past girl's birthday haha

my mom is ok with it she just does not care for the body piercings she has but she will get over it, she's also said how much better this girl is over the last.

[**Sapphire**]

Sounds promising, hey another new thread that we all can read & post to about another new girl for you! :thumb:

[Mike L]

Yeah we hit it off well from the start im looking forward to meeting her but its great we have a lot in common.

[Mike L]

Nice already called me a few times today and waiting for her to call me again after she checks out this place she wants to rent. sounds promising.. I had to keep the post above this short for some reason this site lags my phone typing but my mom also agree she's like a complete 180 from the last girl.

Only thing she does not care too much over is the body piercing but I think she will get over that.. Also she was telling me she would of moved out here if she could of found any open positions but I haven't found any.

She's a sweet girl and it's amazing how quick an hour goes by on the phone I've never think I would find someone with almost my same likes.

lol and hey she was 100% honest that she can't cook lol so I think we will be going out for dinner.

I also want to say I told her about this past girl and how I got annoyed and so on and she was like well that sucks I hate when people do that..blah blah then a few days later shes asks me again "oh how did things work out with that girl did you ever talk to her again?" I was like nope I'm keeping my distance. So i figured with her calling me a lot and asking shes just checking to see if I'm really telling the truth before anything else goes forward? At least that's how I see it.

[**Sapphire**]

Sounds pretty promising.

I think too it might be her way of wondering if you may still talk to the other girl.

Best of luck & keep us posted.

[Mike L]

Yeah I thought the same I'm very trustworthy so I don't need to fool around and play games and she is serious too.

like I was telling someone yesterday I feel so comfortable talking to her like it's nothing to it.

but I will for sure keep you updated.

[Mike L]

haha glad I got unlimited mobile minutes.. I've already talked over 1,100 min so far with just her alone.


She loves calling me before she goes to bed however she's called me about 30 times in the past 48 hours and i feel like I'm getting to the point of not knowing what else to say next.. I think she kinda picked that up in my voice but I mean don't get me wrong I still enjoy talking to her.

[**Sapphire**]

Yeah sometimes you can talk yourselves out. Maybe cut down on the amount of times you 2 talk each day & how long too. That way you both can have something to talk about when you do talk on the phone.

[Mike L]

Yea thats what I think she has been doing

[Mike L]

So I had to update on this.. not too long ago she was saying about how her room is big and all and I asked her what size her bed was... So I just asked her where will I be sleeping at and she said "my room" so I just said ok and that was it..

OK so a few days later she sends me a text that she got drunk (not a huge fan of it) so she calls and talks a little small talk and she says I love you but where I was at I had a lot of background noise so I was not 100% sure I heard what I heard so I just agreed.. but she sent another text that just said "I love you" so I responded back.

People say when people get drunk they tend to speak the truth? I mean I look at my call history on my phone and most of the incoming calls in the past 2 weeks are all her.. I've talked to her for a total of 1,497 minutes so far for this month.

[**Sapphire**]

Has she said she loves you since the drunk call/text? Have you 2 talked about it since then?

[Mike L]

No but she told me last night she wishes I was at her place so she could snuggle up with me.

[aces88]

Well it sounds like things are going good for you man. Hope everything works out with the new girl.

[hellrazaa]

ong distance might be tough

[Mike L]

Well she really wants me to move out with her.. So I told her when I come I will check out some of the area.

Anyways I forgot how this came up but I got her to say she loves me without her being drunk this time :)

[**Sapphire**]

NICE!! So so really does love you huh? :thumb::)

[Mike L]

Just a little update I leave to go see her tomorrow a lot of crazy stuff has happened but hopefully something good will come out of it.. (no we did not fight) She's already told me no matter how mad she gets she would never be mad and upset with me.

[**Sapphire**]

Have fun with your girl!

Remember to update us when you get back! :hello:

[Mike L]

Oh man this is not good at all..

Let me try to go over what happen.. 2 days ago we all decide to drink and we all got drunk.. So from what she tells me I got into a fight with her roommate and thats when things hit the fan.. she said it got so bad she just had to walk away and she says that she's not upset at me just annoyed... so to make a long story short

After she was ignoring me I decided to ask her the full story and she told me So now still after talking to her she is still ignoring me and not answering my texts BUT when she goes out she will ask if I want to come with her or whatever.. which is really weird but she will try to avoid speaking to me directly but the only thing she said to me yesterday was "I thought you said you can hold your drinks" After that she was silent for the rest of the ride back to the house.

I'm so confused and upset I don't know what to make of this.. I said goodnight and she never said anything back.. I don't know what to say and to think of all of this..

can someone please help??

[**Sapphire**]

Maybe give her some time to cool down after what happened & then talk to her.

She might be a little hurt/disappointed/angry at what happened between you & her roommate.

[Mike L]

OMG guess what happened (she kicked me out) it got crazy...

So as you may or may not known her roommate got her pregnant one night when they were drunk.. long story short she calls me one day in a panic to tell me about it.. bah blah SO when it was time for me to come out to MI she was so excited and whatnot...

So the first day and night was cool.. I slept in her room on the floor and she was in the bed anyways.. the 2nd night not so good as you know we call got drunk and she says I threw the first punch and it got so bad she was about to call the cops.. ANYways the 3rd night I knew the roomate and here were having sex again it was so obvious.. anyways I kinda got direct to her about the sexual stuff and me and I was like OH so if I was here for like 3-4 months you would have sex with me too? And she was WHOA... WHOA.. This got very awkward.. and that she had to step out of the room and talk to her friend (other female roomate)

So they talk and so on and I hear her ask a question to her and the roommate says it's up to you.. Anyways she had left her phone in the room I was in so I decide to look at the messages between her and that guy and she said I was like "a piss smell that wont go away" and the guy asked if he wanted her to ask me to leave but she never said anything back to that..

So about 10 min later she came back into the room and after just 5 min of her and the roomate talking (she came in with her this time) She says to me "Uhmm ... I just kinda want to be alone right now.." So I grab my phone and I go into the living room and I sit down and about 3 min later she comes out with all my stuff and says "I just kinda want to be alone in my own house now, and I'm just asking you to leave" I told her that's fine.. So while I was packing my stuff and when was finally done she was in the kitchen with the roomate and I asked her to come here so I could talk and she shook her head no. So i told her anyways in front of the roomate just saying how sorry I was for everything and sorry it had to come to this and she nodded.

HOWEVER she says she was not mad.. she said it just got every awekward and she said I can call her later.... CALL HER LATER??

SO.. on the drive home I see she was on facebook typing her messages about me saying she's glad she is finally alone and she is super happy now..

NOW I wait until the next day to call and she says she does not feel like voice chatting.. So I was like ok.. I just want some closer on what happened and she says I don't feel like discussing that.

I was like ok then..


What I wanted to ask her was.. How come she never showed me around downtown like she said she was..

and her apartment was 3 bedrooms but she said she had a 4th (I checked all around never saw) so I was wondering where is the 4th bedroom?

NOW the next thing was (forgot to add this above) she would not give me the password for her PC so being a person that works on pc's I know how to bypass the password.. and some of the pictures i saw.. I know now she likes to snort lines...

[Mike L]

So guess what she does.. she sends me a text message saying..

"So I think I've decided me laura and mike are going to norway"

First of all if you did not want to speak to me in the last messages I sent to you why tell me this?

[**Sapphire**]

Sounds to me like she's playing some games with you. Which was totally wrong since you came out there to meet her.

[Mike L]

I'm not sure what I should really do? I can't tell how much she is being truthful with.. My friend was thinking maybe she really did not think I was really coming out to see her until I started naming exits near her home..

She said how she had all this planned out for me to do but I sat doing nothing for almost a whole week.

and the fact as she kicked me out she tells me to call her later and when I do call the next day she did not want to pick up the phone.. I just wanted closure and she told me she did not feel like talking that.

So on Saturday she calls my phone but I did not anwser it and she never called back again but I think she will again soon.

I just want an anwser of why she did the way she did.

[**Sapphire**]

I can understand why you want closure. Maybe wait until the next time she calls & then you can talk to her about it, hopefully get your answers you seek.

If you don't though, I know it's hard, but I would just leave this girl alone.

[Mike L]

Well that did not take long.. I sent her a huge 3 part text this morning and she finally got around to answering me back (might be making me wait) Anyways the sexual questions are what made her feel weird and do what she did as far as kicking me out.. So I'm talking to her now asking her what happened with like hanging out and doing all that stuff we said we would do and I got no response..

So I said "Do you miss me?" and she says yes but now I'm sad.. So I'm guessing she is feeling a little guilty right now of what all happened and her way of handling her guest that drove 12 hr and 654 miles to see her.

[**Sapphire**]

She could be feeling guilty. Only time & her talking to you more about it will be revealed.

[Mike L]

Hmm so I got home kinda late.. around 12:30 am so around 3 AM she starts sending me text messages.. like before (she was drunk) so I added a little spin on it and I said No I don't think you are.. and she was like yes..

then I said for a drunk person you reply back pretty quick.. after I said that it took her about 10 min for the next message.. but this time she called me.. and I said ok on the start of talking I was like maybe I can finally get the truth out now.. that kinda started the fire.. she got a tad snippy and i again asked her about the whole sex thing with the roommate and she said something like you know how I'm open sexually but when you starting bringing up the whole why wont you have sex with me after I just met you for the first time it kind of made me uncomfortable.. and being asexual (Uhmm I don't think so) that's what made me decide to kick you out..

She said she did not want to do that and she hated to do that but at the time she said it was just too much to deal with (says I came at a bad time)

So she went on a little raising her voice at me but I stayed calm and I was just like Abigail.. Abigail... and she lowered her tone back down and said yes? And we talked a bit more..

then she brings up the male roommate.. meanwhile I can hear him in the background asking if I was bothering her and she told him no.. Anyways she was like I hate him right now.. I treat him like a son because he has no one else to look up to since his family pretty much left him on his own.. she said she's spent like $2k on taking care of him and he does not seem to appreciate it.. the following she whispered on the phone so he could not hear but she was like I hate him and he's a %*(*^ and so on... So she hung up for a bit then later on she tells me she and him were fighting, she called me back later and she told me everything was ok since I had sent her a text asking if she was ok but i told her I just wanted to be sure she was ok.. by that time I said go get some rest since she sounded totally out of it.

I think guilt has set in but i wish she really could get rid of that roommate shes always so stressed. I'm happy we can start to talk more openly about what happened without going crazy at it, she was a bit upset I was not that talkative to her but I mean it was my first time meeting her in person and I was just getting a feel of things.

I did ask her if she missed me and she said yes i did not say anything regarding love until things clear a bit more.

[Mike L]

I wont lie I may of came on a bit too strong about the sex.. but what do you expect when you have a girl telling how she is enjoying herself along in bed..

[Mike L]

A little update oh man I don't think I can call this girl a new girl ;) loooong story short.. I met this girl like 9 years ago and we were talking and we hit it off really good, somehow between now and then we've only seen each other off and on at really random times when we both were not expecting to see each other.. say like.. last weekend I was opening a door at this service and I look at the person coming out of the bathroom, and I was thinking to myself wow she looks good.. Then she looks at me again and she started grinning and she was like Mike!! (she's always had a crush on me) I was so speechless I was so happy to see her.

So anyways I sent her a friend request on facebook and she says to me that she was shocked that I sent her a request (I think it's because she has a kid) so long story short she gave me her number and I gave her mine and we've been talking, and shes been asking me how I've been doing and she would tell me what she was doing and she was like the next time I come up are you going to cook for me? haha I said sure.

I've noticed her words she's been using now.. Been calling me hun, sweetheart and all.

Ah man she's way better then all the other girls in this past thread I can assure you that. :whoo:

Now I rant because something is wrong with my phone and I can't get her text messages.

[**Sapphire**]

Sounds like this 1 may be the right 1 & a positive girl for you Mike. Best of luck & keep us posted. :thumb:

[Mike L]

Yeah we have GREAT chemistry! Always texting me in the morning asking how work was :) I look forward to them :)