How do you think it would affect you...

[lisa843]

if the person you were involved with left you for a person of the same sex as your ex?? Would you take it personal...and feel like it was your fault? How do you think you would handle this situation??

(btw...this has not happened to me..nor am I homophobic or anything like that...I just heard of this happening and I am curious as to what you all think about this)

[Penguin_Woman]

Hmm....I dunno. Depends on a lot of things. How close I had been with the person, how long involved and all. But...yeah I think at least intially I'd take it personally. I'd think that I was unattractive and all. Then again my self-esteem has never been great. I think it would take me a while to get involved with someone again. But I think, with time I'd get over it

[aussiecoffee007]

funny you should mention that, that JUST happened to a friend of mine... she told him she was bi but he didnt care and they went out for a while but she just broke up with him because she decided she was a full-blown lesbian. so yeah, he was really upset but he didnt take it personally like HE made her a lesbian or anything...
i think i would feel like i had done something bad to turn them away from previously liking my same sex, even though i probably (i hope ;) ) didnt... but id be insecure for a while.

[lisa843]

good points ladies. I don't know how I would feel?? That would be a hard pill to swallow?? I think I would look at it like...they were the one fooling themselves...trying to hide the fact that they were gay or unsure of their own sexuality?? I would hope that I would know better to blame myself...or feel bad about myself for it....but I can see how one would do just that. :confused:

[mashmac]

not quite sure but certainly wouldn't think it's my fault. I don't think you become gay of lesbian, I think you kind of get born with the tendency. And it's hard for most people to accept it pending on their cultural background, the fear of being rejected and considered as freaks. So often they try being straight.
But the jury is still out on that one.

I think it would be easier than if he left me for another woman. My ego would be less bruised... I am almost sure cause I thought about it before but I haven't really experienced it.

[lisa843]

I believe (for the most part) people are born that way...but there are those that do "experiment" with it or do it to please their mate (that's a whole other topic right there...lol) I also agree that fear of being rejected or labeled does cause some people to not disclose their sexual orientation.not quite sure but certainly wouldn't think it's my fault. I don't think you become gay of lesbian, I think you kind of get born with the tendency. And it's hard for most people to accept it pending on their cultural background, the fear of being rejected and considered as freaks. So often they try being straight.
But the jury is still out on that one.

I think it would be easier than if he left me for another woman. My ego would be less bruised... I am almost sure cause I thought about it before but I haven't really experienced it.

[~Teej~]

I've always been a little bit interested in girls..Not to say I have ever had a GF before but I think if I met the right girl I would seriously consider it.

I know that's not what you asked Goldie but I thought It might explan why some people can go for people of the same sex and it is totally fine.

[aussiecoffee007]

i think id hope that my ego wouldnt be bruised, but i think i would be... i dont think i coudl stop myself from thinking it was my fault :(

[Penguin_Woman]

I understand what your saying, Meerkat. I'm sure it would've been something that they've thought about before or maybe they were just trying to convince themselves that they were straight. It'd still be quite the blow

[lisa843]

Ohh Meerkat..I don't want you or anyone else to think I am homophobic...I am really understanding to people and very accepting of people. I truly believe what people do behind closed doors is their own business..as long as it is consenting adults. I am very secure in my sexuality and do not have any hangups about stuff like that. But I understand many people do have problems accepting people for who they are...and it is hard for those that are different than the majority..or "mainstream"?? I hope that was worded right to not offend anyone and made sense?? :) I've always been a little bit interested in girls..Not to say I have ever had a GF before but I think if I met the right girl I would seriously consider it.

I know that's not what you asked Goldie but I thought It might explan why some people can go for people of the same sex and it is totally fine.

[~Teej~]

You didn't offend me in the slightest Goldie.

Don't worry about it :bounce:

[lisa843]

You didn't offend me in the slightest Goldie.

Don't worry about it :bounce:

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