Y I'm against men still C-ing their X gfs

[LonelyDaisy]

One thing for sure is that I'm against men still seeing their ex girlfriends regardless, especially live ins. They might cheat with them but then of course some men do cheat regardless.:eek: But what my concern is that they might still be in love with their ex. If there's a child involved than I will definetly not get involved.:nono: I know this sounds insecure but that's how I feel unless their ex is already married or got another boyfriend.

[~Teej~]

I can understand where you are coming from. It's hard when partners are friends with there EX's sometimes.

But try to overcome that fear if you can.

I am still quite good friends with a few of my ex's and I would never get back with them.

Although If people have cheated on you with EX's before then I can understand why you feel this way

[Penguin_Woman]

Well, if there's a child involved, of course they are going to talk. That doesn't mean they are still in love with them. I have to deal with this myself. Tuxie's soon-to-be, ex and him have two kids together. So, I realize they will always be in contact. I was somewhat insecure at first, but I realize that Tuxie chose me and loves me. As you said yourself...some guys will cheat anyway. Stoppin them from seeing their ex solves nothing. IMO

[Tuxie]

1 thing for sure is that I'm against men still C-ing their X gfs regardless, especially live ins. They might cheat with them but then of course some men do cheat regardless.:eek: But what my concern is that they might still B in love with their X. If there's a child involved than I will definetly not get involved.:nono: I know this sounds insecure but that's how I feel unless their X is already married or got another bf.

A bit off topic for a sec.

Can you not use whole words for a reason? This makes it very hard to understand. Please use complete words in the future. If it's because you don't have the time to spell everything out, just post at a later time... when you can spell it out.

Back to topic now. :)

[lisa843]

I understand what you are saying...BUT..I disagree with it. If someone is going to cheat...they are going to cheat...doesn't matter if it is an ex or not?? Maybe the ex is seen as "convenient"?? I think this is an insecurity issue and trust issue. (IMO) :) 1 thing for sure is that I'm against men still C-ing their X gfs regardless, especially live ins. They might cheat with them but then of course some men do cheat regardless.:eek: But what my concern is that they might still B in love with their X. If there's a child involved than I will definetly not get involved.:nono: I know this sounds insecure but that's how I feel unless their X is already married or got another bf.

[Riggs]

To trust someone 100% is hard, isn't it? I never cheated on anyone I was with. My ex thinks just because other girls hit on me, that I will. This is
the main reason I don't see her anymore. Girls made passes at me while dating her and she couldn't deal with it. I never gave her any reason not to
trust me.

[lisa843]

that is probably because SHE was insecure. If that was the case there was nothing you could do to help her...it has to come from within...(IMO) :)To trust someone 100% is hard, isn't it? I never cheated on anyone I was with. My ex thinks just because other girls hit on me, that I will. This is
the main reason I don't see her anymore. Girls made passes at me while dating her and she couldn't deal with it. I never gave her any reason not to
trust me.

[~Teej~]

I think it depends on the person..If they have been cheated on before then It can be hard to trust again..I'm not like that but I can understand when other people are.

[Riggs]

that is probably because SHE was insecure. If that was the case there was nothing you could do to help her...it has to come from within...(IMO) :)

I miss her. :(

[lisa843]

Aww...so sorry to hear that. Are you involved with anyone now? If not, I am sure you will find someone that will appreciate you for the great guy that you are. Things happen and work out the way they are supposed to. If it is meant to be ....it will be. :)I miss her. :(

[LonelyDaisy]

I understand what you are saying...BUT..I disagree with it. If someone is going to cheat...they are going to cheat...doesn't matter if it is an ex or not?? Maybe the ex is seen as "convenient"?? I think this is an insecurity issue and trust issue. (IMO) :) It doesn't matter what you think or anyone else thinks. I'm still against men seeing ex girlfriends regardless. That's my opinion and no one can change that...:mad:

[LonelyDaisy]

Aww...so sorry to hear that. Are you involved with anyone now? If not, I am sure you will find someone that will appreciate you for the great guy that you are. Things happen and work out the way they are supposed to. If it is meant to be ....it will be. :)
I don't mean to be rude, but I rather you say those things to him in his private mail and not in my post... It depresses me...:sad:

[aussiecoffee007]

ah lonelydaisy, theres no need to be depressed by that! its true for everyone. for you and yoru relationships, if it doesnt work out, it doesnt work out for a reason. but you are never going to find happiness again if you just dwell in that past, and never try to move on and meet other people... there is someone out there for you too that will appreciate the person you are too, but you have to find them! they dotn just come knocking at your door :)

[LonelyDaisy]

ah lonelydaisy, theres no need to be depressed by that! its true for everyone. for you and yoru relationships, if it doesnt work out, it doesnt work out for a reason. but you are never going to find happiness again if you just dwell in that past, and never try to move on and meet other people... there is someone out there for you too that will appreciate the person you are too, but you have to find them! they dotn just come knocking at your door :) I understand what your saying. I just don't feel comfortable when men still see their ex for any reason especially when there's children involved. I been through all kinds of bllsht in my life other wise I wouldn't have felt this way..

[Penguin_Woman]

Well...Lonelydaisy noone here was trying to change your mind...just giving our opinions. :) That's what this forum is about...exchanging ideas and opinions.

[LonelyDaisy]

Well...Lonelydaisy noone here was trying to change your mind...just giving our opinions. :) That's what this forum is about...exchanging ideas and opinions.
I know everyone means well, I didn't mean to sound so rudely or insecure. I guess I felt this way b/c I'm living a :bsflag: life, the way I've been mistreated by people. Sometimes I don't understand my life style. It's not easy trying to accept certain things in life.

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[lisa843]

If no one can change your opinion or get you to see things differently...why would you post in a help forum..if you don't want to hear what others have to say?? I will note to myself to not comment to anyone else in your threads..I certainly do not want to offend you or upset you. Hope you work all this out and feel better soon. :) It doesn't matter what you think or anyone else thinks. I'm still against men seeing ex girlfriends regardless. That's my opinion and no one can change that...:mad:

[aussiecoffee007]

i was referring to your asking goldie to keep stuff out of your posts that are directed to other people, that positive quote she said, that was what i meant, not the other thing.
but relatedly, i dont htink wallowing in self-pity is going to help you or make you happy again...

[lisa843]

thanks....& I agree aussie. :)i was referring to your asking goldie to keep stuff out of your posts that are directed to other people, that positive quote she said, that was what i meant, not the other thing.
but relatedly, i dont htink wallowing in self-pity is going to help you or make you happy again...

[LonelyDaisy]

If no one can change your opinion or get you to see things differently...why would you post in a help forum..if you don't want to hear what others have to say?? I will note to myself to not comment to anyone else in your threads..I certainly do not want to offend you or upset you. Hope you work all this out and feel better soon. :)

As I said in my last post, I know everyone else is trying to help, It's just that I've been through so much in my life it's hard for me to change the way I feel right now. I didn't mean to say that it doesn't matter what you think or anyone else. If that offends you or others, I appologize. I just don't agree with them at this time. I will think about it though. As for posting, I just don't feel comfortable seeing comments to anyone else on my thread good or bad.

[aussiecoffee007]

i understand that... just know that we are here for ya, okay? life has its up and downs, but dont get caught in the downs... oh okay i thought it was the content, not the just fact that shes writing to someone else.