Have you ever outgrown your friends?

[Anonymous89]

Have you ever outgrown a friend? Have you ever continued to maintain a friendship when deep down, you already felt a little sick and tired of your friend but yet, you felt guilty if you cut off your friend from your life?
A part of you has already grown up and is looking forward to being around people with similar interest and thinking, yet, another part of you is guilty in letting go of all your old friendships.
Your old friends are constantly contacting you, trying their best to maintain this friendship, but somehow, you are feeling differently from them, you can't help but to feel dragged down by your old friends, dragged down into their pit of constant whinings and complainings, dragged down into their negativity. You felt exhausted, to the point that you feel like cutting them off from your life, yet, you will feel guilty for doing so. You felt like confronting them and salvage this dead friendship, yet, they are extremely dramatic people who will badmouth and gossip about you if you confront them.

Have you ever faced such a situation before? What are your solutions toward such a dilemma?

[learning2trust]

Well it took a boyfriend of my former best friend's for our friendship to completely come to a stop so because of that, we are no longer friends.

[**Sapphire**]

Yeah I've hung on to a friendship or 2 over the years because I felt guilty for the feelings I was having in regards to that friend.

I felt like it wasn't that friend's fault that I changed. I tried to make it work, but in the long run I did get rid of them. I did it in various ways though, some I just stopped contacting & when they contacted me I wouldn't pick up. If I did talk to them & they wanted to hang out I was always "busy" or didn't sound interested in what they were telling me.

Others I did tell them that it was time to "move on" for me.

It really depended on the person, if I knew I could be honest with them, then I told them how I felt, how I changed & how I felt distant etc. & then went on with my life. If they weren't the type to want to hear it, then I did the above with no contact etc..