ms960
08-17-2010, 03:15 PM
I recently found someone on Facebook that I knew in high school. In high school, I had the hugest crush on this girl. I didn't have multiple crushes in high school; I had one. That’s singular. I only had one crush, but it was a big crush and lasted as 6 years (jr high and high school).
She was gorgeous and smart and had it all together. I was kind of nerdy, so I never had the guts to talk to her or ask her out or anything. High school came and went without any interaction between myself and her, so she really didn't know who I was, I don't think.
Recently, and after a little detective work, I found her on Facebook. She's halfway across the country from me now, married and with kids, which is awesome as far as I'm concerned. I'm married (no complaints) with kids as well.
I finished high school well over 20 year ago, so it's nice like this all just happened, but over the past 2-3 years, I've had dreams of her. Not a lot, but maybe half a dozen dreams in a couple year period. I never dream about people and remember them, but her, I do remember the dreams vividly.
Since I found her on Facebook, I've been very tempted to just send her a short message. Something like "Hi. I know you don't remember me from high school, but I very much remember you. I saw you on FB and just wanted to say hello. Hope you are well."
I would have no expectations of a reply, nor would I want this to lead anywhere other than maybe catching up.
I'm struggling with whether it would be weird (to her) for me to say hello. Part of me says I shouldn't bother, it's over, move on, etc. But, part of me says there's no harm in just a short hello, with no expectations of a reply. If she's weirded out, she won't reply anyways.
Would a short note be received well or poorly by her? Without knowing anything about her, I know that's a hard question to answer, but in general, if a girl got a short email from a guy who said he had a crush on her in high school, would that be flattering or disgusting? Would she think I'm weird/strange/a stalker, etc.?
Should I email her?
She was gorgeous and smart and had it all together. I was kind of nerdy, so I never had the guts to talk to her or ask her out or anything. High school came and went without any interaction between myself and her, so she really didn't know who I was, I don't think.
Recently, and after a little detective work, I found her on Facebook. She's halfway across the country from me now, married and with kids, which is awesome as far as I'm concerned. I'm married (no complaints) with kids as well.
I finished high school well over 20 year ago, so it's nice like this all just happened, but over the past 2-3 years, I've had dreams of her. Not a lot, but maybe half a dozen dreams in a couple year period. I never dream about people and remember them, but her, I do remember the dreams vividly.
Since I found her on Facebook, I've been very tempted to just send her a short message. Something like "Hi. I know you don't remember me from high school, but I very much remember you. I saw you on FB and just wanted to say hello. Hope you are well."
I would have no expectations of a reply, nor would I want this to lead anywhere other than maybe catching up.
I'm struggling with whether it would be weird (to her) for me to say hello. Part of me says I shouldn't bother, it's over, move on, etc. But, part of me says there's no harm in just a short hello, with no expectations of a reply. If she's weirded out, she won't reply anyways.
Would a short note be received well or poorly by her? Without knowing anything about her, I know that's a hard question to answer, but in general, if a girl got a short email from a guy who said he had a crush on her in high school, would that be flattering or disgusting? Would she think I'm weird/strange/a stalker, etc.?
Should I email her?