Pushing His Luck

[QuestionableContent]

Basically at uni I only have two friends, one whom I've known for years and one who is kind of a friend whom is the only person on my course I actually know.
However he's started pushing his luck. He knows full well I have a boyfriend, I mention it often enough, and I've never shown any romating interest in him. Sometimes he's okay and will just talk to me normally and help me with my course but sometimes he starts going on about how I should take a topless picture and send it to him or go do stuff with him while my boyfriend is busy or stuff like that. Once he told me to dump my boyfriend and go with him. I've told him I won't send him anything, I'm not interested, not going to dump my boyfriend and so on and so forth. My boyfriend knows about him, he's told me several times it's not my fault and has threatened to send a virus to the guys computer but still.

I don't know what to do :(.
I know I should probably just tell him to f-off and never ever speak to him again, but at the moment I'm just clinging to knowing someone on my course who can help me. :o I'm struggling with uni and lonliness and sometimes he's helpful.

Halp? Slap me if it works.,

[stoner]

I wish I can be of help, but I don't have anything to advice you with.

As per my past experience, however, a similar situation to yours was how my relationship with a former fiance ended badly.

From the moment we started dating leading up to our engagement, I knew well that she had many friends. But we trusted each other, so there's nothing to worry about ... so I thought.

When her plan to visit me on the weekend of my birthday didn't work out, she decided to visit another friend attending another institution. When I found out about it, I just lost it. Call me crazy, but I was only human to feel mad and jealous, considering that this guy friend whom she was visiting at that time, wanted more than just friendship from her. I confronted her about it upon her return, and it got ugly. One misunderstanding led to another, and she called off the engagement. I finished what she initiated and ended the relationship altogether; I left and never looked back. The bridge was burned from that moment on, and it's been that way to this day.

Since there was no communication of any kind from the moment we broke up - not even through a third party - hopefully, she's doing alright ... wherever she is.

"at the moment I'm just clinging to knowing someone on my course who can help me. I'm struggling with uni and lonliness and sometimes he's helpful"

those were her exact feelings, given that there were times when she could not stand the long distance between us, because of college ... unfortunately it led to the demise of what we both worked hard together.

I can only hope that in anything that you do ... you're just simply doing the right thing. Good luck.

[**Sapphire**]

You can't start up a conversation with anybody else in your course hun?

I think this guy is bad news & he is NOT being a good or real friend at all. He's disrespecting you & that's not right or fair to you.

1 thing you may try here if you truly can't get to know anybody else in your course to help you is when he talks disrespectfully to you again cut him off. Hang up on him, walk away from him, log off the PC. Tell him in no uncertain terms that you WILL NOT be talked to like that & if he does value you as a friend he better stop. You can also only contact him when you need help & be very professional with him, no idle chit chat, just talk to him about the problem you may be having in your course, when he has helped you, then that's it, say goodbye.

[misssl]

I agree, I think you should just end contact with him. Don't reply to even the smallest gestures. If he can't respect a simple boundry, no telling what he might push. I've been in this position before. He kept giving me gifts and writing me cards, but he helped me out with school a lot. Finally, I just cut all ties.
I kept telling him over and over, and made it clear it needed to stop.
I was really nice about it at first, but when he wouldn't stop I told him how I really felt about the situation. Haven't heard from him sense. Thank goodness.

[HeartBreach]

Who would want to be around anyone that wants you to send a topless picture of yourself??? He doesn't respect you...so he is not your friend at all...he is a predator.

[Ruby Saturday]

It's the old thing about men wanting what they can't have, and when they get it they don't want it anymore. It's the thrill of the chase.