Hmmm, Should I Pursue It

[wiggles]

I was out with some work mates and some others that some of my workmates invited to join us. We were all drinking, having a great time. I got talking one girl, a friend of a workmate and did so for the rest of the night. While getting more and more drunk we got closer and closer (physically). Then we kissed and spent pretty much the rest of the night kissing.

Talking to people since, I'm told she was all over me, all night (my memory's damaged a little by the booze). Now in my whole life I've never had a girl after me like that. At least never on a night out, and never someone I actually found attractive.

I'm also told that there were two guys who I'd consider to have a better chance with any girl than me on a night out. She chose to keep coming back to me. Now for a long time when people meet me, they think I'm gay. Was she spending so much attention on me because she thought nothing would happen? But then why did she kiss me, repeatedly? She even paused our last kiss to ask if I was definatly not gay, then we swaped phones and she made me promise to text her.

Since then I've texted her a couple of times but I'm not really sure how I want pursue it. Can you start any kind of relationship from a few drunken snogs, can you form any real kind of opinion of a person based on a time when you both were drunk?

Finally, and as a bit of a side-note, most of the workmates who were there believed I was gay until they saw kissing this girl. It annoys me when people think I'm gay but I've long since given up trying to convince them by telling them over and over that I'm not, I just let them think what they will, because I don't feel I have the power to convince them otherwise. Now, spending the night 'connected' to this girl has convinced everyone I work with that I am not gay. But I want to make it clear that I didn't kiss this girl to convince people that I'm not gay and didn't even consider that fact until late the next day.

Sorry to go on. And on. And on, lol.

[aussiecoffee007]

hey, i have to think on this one for a bit, and ill get back to you, but i just wanted to let you now im thinking so you dont think im ignoring you ;)

[Penguin_Woman]

Hmmm...well, firstoff no need to apologise. Your post was fairly short. Secondly...I don't think many relationships arise from drunken kissing. What do you feel about her when sober?

[aussiecoffee007]

yeah thanks tuxette you got my brain going, id say get to know her SOBER and see if she still appeals to you then... do you only like her cuz shes all over you, or do you like the person that she is too?

[wiggles]

Well when I met her at the start of the night I was attracted to her, and when I first started talking to her it was pretty early on and when I was talking to her the next day, to swap phones back, I liked those two people.

I don't think I like her because she was "all over me", but it's made me consider pursueing it more than I would otherwise. Women in the past I've been attracted to I've decided not to pursue because I got no sign of attraction from them.

[Riggs]

Well, you could try goning out with her a few times to get to know each other and not drink. This way, you both will get to know the real person. Good luck !

[Penguin_Woman]

I agree with Riggs. Go out, stay away from alcohol and see where it goes. :D Let us know what happens. :)

[mashmac]

I am with Riggs too. You can certainly ask her out for a drink and take it from there. Yes you were tipsy but why not try seeing her when you are both sober. At least to begin with... :)

[Riggs]

Yeah, go for it, dude !

[~Teej~]

I agree with everyone here..There's no harm on going on a few dates and see what happens

[aussiecoffee007]

just trying doing it without that whole alcohol thing to see if you click without the alcohol and without the physical stuff alone :)

[Penguin_Woman]

Yeah, that's a good point try not to get physical too. See if you connect on a deeper level. :)