break up in peace but now i am pregnancy... should i tell him?

[chungjoe]

break up in peace but now i am pregnancy
i recently met a guy from work, we went out few time, and we did have a great sex, just the chemical make us feel that we really like each other.
at first, i think that this is a good start in our relationship, however, i feel that he was not care about me a lot, just sometime i tried to call him, which always to voicemail, even i told him i was sick, but he never called me back.
i started to think about he just cheat me or just want to have sex with me.
i was so down before. last week, he told me his ex is coming back to UK and want to start with him again, i understand that his ex was the one he fell in love with, and i am just a people he like, so i can only let him go.
but right now, i am pregnancy, should i tell him about that even i know he wont want the baby.
i am so scare, i am just alone. please help me.

[stupidm]

I think you should at least let him know this thing, 'cause he is the father and he also has the right to know. Although you may not want the baby, but this should be your common decision.

[chungjoe]

I think you should at least let him know this thing, 'cause he is the father and he also has the right to know. Although you may not want the baby, but this should be your common decision.

yup, u are right,,, i should let him know, but if i know that he won't help me anything and this news just let him upset, should i just suffer this by myself.

[aussiecoffee007]

i dont think you should suffer that burden alone... the two of you made a child and he is every bit as responsible as you... and legally it is his responsibility to at least send some support to the child, but i think he deserves to know, it is HIS child after all.

[~Teej~]

Yes I think that you should tell him about the baby..It took the both of you to make the baby so it should also be both of you that make the decision about what to do next.

Good luck

[mashmac]

Do you want this baby? Regardless of him. I mean this is a huge event. From what you are saying he doesn't seem to care much at all. Do you have family around you that can help you with it? He has to know. But you won't be able to force him to help you with it. Once the baby is born - he will have legal obligation. Whatever you do - don't think he will come back because you are having his child. This is your baby now. My heart goes to you. As a mother I can only say that having kids is the best thing I ever did.

[chungjoe]

i dont think you should suffer that burden alone... the two of you made a child and he is every bit as responsible as you... and legally it is his responsibility to at least send some support to the child, but i think he deserves to know, it is HIS child after all.

thanks thanks thanks
yup, i know i should tell him even he wont do anything with it, but at least i just want someone can be with me to suffer this if i choose to give birth the baby or not. but it seem to be he will not do anything,,, that's the most of thing he disappoint me. he doesnt want to be care about me anymore, how can i ask him to take care my feeling right now!?

[chungjoe]

Yes I think that you should tell him about the baby..It took the both of you to make the baby so it should also be both of you that make the decision about what to do next.

Good luck

thanks thanks thanks
i think... i will tell him about the baby,,, just dont give too much hope on him will take care me and my feeling.

[chungjoe]

Do you want this baby? Regardless of him. I mean this is a huge event. From what you are saying he doesn't seem to care much at all. Do you have family around you that can help you with it? He has to know. But you won't be able to force him to help you with it. Once the baby is born - he will have legal obligation. Whatever you do - don't think he will come back because you are having his child. This is your baby now. My heart goes to you. As a mother I can only say that having kids is the best thing I ever did.

thanks thanks thanks, what u say is so helpful to me, i really want the baby, because i have the operation before, n doctor said i only have 50% to have baby than healthy people. so if i dont want this baby,,, i may not have baby anymore in my life. i like kid a lots, but because of this reason, i dont want to do any mistake, i concern about if i have this baby, can i really take that,,, include time, money, my job... because i can see that i cant really laid on him to do anything to me. oppositly, if i give birth, will the baby really happy if the father dont take care him,,, i am just thinking too much...

[stupidm]

thanks thanks thanks, what u say is so helpful to me, i really want the baby, because i have the operation before, n doctor said i only have 50% to have baby than healthy people. so if i dont want this baby,,, i may not have baby anymore in my life. i like kid a lots, but because of this reason, i dont want to do any mistake, i concern about if i have this baby, can i really take that,,, include time, money, my job... because i can see that i cant really laid on him to do anything to me. oppositly, if i give birth, will the baby really happy if the father dont take care him,,, i am just thinking too much...

Dear chungjoe, i think you should have this baby if you really want it. Because as you said, you are very difficult to be pregnant, and luckily, you conceived a baby this time. just regard it as a gift. and that guy, just let him go, maybe you have to suffer from manythings, like money, time...yet it is the price you pay for it to have your dream (having a baby in life) come true. and you have to tell him about the baby first, and you just behave like very independent, you don't need his sympathy if he doesn't love you anymmore, but if you give birth the baby, he has to take the responsibility financially as many friends mentioned above. and i believe you must have friends and family, you can turn to them, i think they will give you self-giving love, so don't be hopeless. be happy, it's good for the baby:)

[Riggs]

break up in peace but now i am pregnancy
i recently met a guy from work, we went out few time, and we did have a great sex, just the chemical make us feel that we really like each other.
at first, i think that this is a good start in our relationship, however, i feel that he was not care about me a lot, just sometime i tried to call him, which always to voicemail, even i told him i was sick, but he never called me back.
i started to think about he just cheat me or just want to have sex with me.
i was so down before. last week, he told me his ex is coming back to UK and want to start with him again, i understand that his ex was the one he fell in love with, and i am just a people he like, so i can only let him go.
but right now, i am pregnancy, should i tell him about that even i know he wont want the baby.
i am so scare, i am just alone. please help me.

Oh, love. :( Yes, tell him, because if you keep this baby, he will have to help you raise it. Don't let him make you get rid of it, hun. If you want this child, you keep it. Good luck and God bless ! :)

[chungjoe]

i try to told him, but he even doesnt listen my call,,,
that make me feel upset, why we cant be friend even broke up?
he just doesnt want to share anything to me anymore.
i am still not sure to have to baby or not because i know i cant take all this on my own.
i still got few weeks to think about it.
thanks for everyone care about me.

[aussiecoffee007]

you cant make him listen to you, i think its good you tried to tell him adn if you want to make him be involved, you can...

[stupidm]

i try to told him, but he even doesnt listen my call,,,
that make me feel upset, why we cant be friend even broke up?
he just doesnt want to share anything to me anymore.
i am still not sure to have to baby or not because i know i cant take all this on my own.
i still got few weeks to think about it.
thanks for everyone care about me.

I'm not quite sure whether it's a good idea to tell his parents, if he doesn't answer your call. Or you can turn to your family or trusted friends for help. all in all, you have to let him know. And asap, the baby in you is growing...

[Penguin_Woman]

i try to told him, but he even doesnt listen my call
that make me feel upset, why we cant be friend even broke up?
he just doesnt want to share anything to me anymore.
i am still not sure to have to baby or not because i know i cant take all this on my own.
i still got few weeks to think about it.
thanks for everyone care about me.
Honestly, if he's not going to be in the picture and you don't think you can handle it then maybe you should think about adoption. Better to give the child to a couple who desperately wants one who would and could care for it. Then keep it and struggle and have this reminder...but ultimately it's up to you

[mashmac]

Tuxette put it well. Also - I think you still have feelings for him of some sort and perhaps hope that you could get closer to him if you have his child.

You really have to think about this hard and anticipate that he will never be part of this child's life. So if you have this baby - you need to realize you will be on your own. He really doesn't want to be involved in it. And you can't force him.
Yes he might have to pay child support but you can not force him to be part of this child's life.

[~Teej~]

You have a really hard decision to make.

You do want the baby because it is hard for you to get pregnant.

I think you want to be having a baby with someone who really wants to have a baby with you and not someone who doesn't care.

But If you can love the baby and care for it then have the baby..It will become your life but if you speak to any single mum who decided to keep their baby they will tell you that it's the best thing they ever did.

But you have to do what is best for you. Think long and hard about it and I an sure your family will support you whatever you decide to do.