girls are gonna drive me nuts <3

[PhoenixSoul]

Like it's been 4 days since my ex-future wife dumped me telling me it was the best for us cause of financial reasons,and after i see what she is doing i noticed she actually dumped me for some dude that lives in USA,after spending with my more than 5 years.So i've been talking myself with a girl that i met in a game *pw*..and she says we only friends but when i told her i had a gf she got upset and logged off msg and game.The next days she says she had to go,suddenly..little time passed and i told her what happened to me and even if she kinda says we are only friends,that she doesn't look for a bf now cause of school but we draw hearts,we send eachother "virtual kisses" we talk for hours non stop.(btw she doesn't have anyone now)So my dillema now is i'm afraid to say something forward cause she might get scarred :),and she also lived in england and i'm going back to roumaine now..so between us will be like 4000 miles,and even when i come back to spain there is entire france between us.I can drive till there..i make like a day but..i really don't know.

[**Sapphire**]

Well I would just enjoy getting to know her more online. Maybe become her friend for now & see where things may lead in the future.

If you 2 are going to be so far away, it can be possible to have a long distance relationship online. It all depends on the couple & what they are willing to do to keep things going.

[PhoenixSoul]

I can go to her easy ..i love having long car-trips but she is a great friend..listens to my cheesy crap,my complaining and i wouldn't like to loose that.

[**Sapphire**]

Well if you want to keep her friendship, then I wouldn't tell her how you are starting to feel.

Take more time to get to know her & if you feel that she might be feeling the same types of things, then you can tell her.

There's no rush to have a girlfriend, you can take the time to ge to know her as a friend first & then hopefully it will move in to something more.

[PhoenixSoul]

This is like amazing my ex who is still gonna live with me for the next 3 days and another 3 days on the road in my car until we get home just told me she doesn't hate me,didn't stop loving me and what she is talking with that guy online is just online.Plus she mentioned starting over again,dating again like we used to be in our first years,without the routine.

[**Sapphire**]

How do you feel about that? Geez I sounded like a head shrinker asking that question?? :D

[PhoenixSoul]

Felt great but today she says we are like best friends,then she takes me out and we have lunch.Last night she ..slipped into my arms and we made .... XD.Yesturday we watched movies all day long in eachother's arms.I'm confused what kind of friendship is this but i know once we will live at our own houses things will change.

[**Sapphire**]

Why don't you talk to her about what kind of relationship you 2 have now? Get everything you are thinking & if you have any confusion out in the open now with her.

[Anna1]

You should meet.
That will happen. Sooner or later.

[PhoenixSoul]

Well my ex just came back in the picture,came to my house i was sleeping,she went under the blanket started kissing me and stuff,tell me she loves me and telling me she wants to breakup was a huge mistake,and all that lovey dovey on forums with that guy is nothing but internet stuff,nothing real cause i am real.

[**Sapphire**]

Anytime you tell another intimate things, share intimate thoughts etc. does mean something. It may not mean anything to the person that is saying it, but it may mean something to the person receiving it.

People hide too much behind the internet & the "it's not real" blah blah stuff. If you are talking to someone of the opposite sex online & you are getting intimate online, over the phone, over skype or web cam, then you are taking things to an intimate level with that person & IMO...cheating on your significant other.

[PhoenixSoul]

That's why i am not making any hopes at all and only enjoying the physical side.Tho it's kinda sad...But she doesn't talk with him on messenger programs , only thru forum pms.I would be stupid to make a big fuss about this and not be real cause i do have a record of being over-gelous and paranoid.


What if i make her choose between forums and that guy and me?

[**Sapphire**]

You are her partner & you have been her partner for awhile. If she truly loves YOU, she wouldn't be playing any kind of online games with another man.

She's playing you both, you in real life & him in the online life. She goes to you to get the physical aspect of things because she can't do that with the online guy.

It's not fair to YOU to be used like that.

[PhoenixSoul]

Well i asked her how can she love 2 persons,how can she say "i love you" to 2 guys and got no answer so everything ended a few hours ago.Gonna quit love,it's not worth it lol.

[**Sapphire**]

Now cloud, don't give up on love. I know it sucks, but there is someone out there for you that won't play games with your head & heart.

I would suggest if it's totally over, no more letting her contact you or come by, I know the temptation is strong, but if you want to be over her & not hurt anymore this is what you have to do, no contact.

Take time to heal, be selfish, go do somethings for yourself, spend time with friends. Of course you can always come here to read & post to as well, there's alot more to ATLF than helping others in love need. :)

[PhoenixSoul]

U mai think this is crazy but she made me leave all my friends,so now i am like...just me,but i'm ok with that,i like beeing a lone wolf.I;m just surprised how someone can throw away all the kind words and promises made for years in just one sentence :).I'll live tho :P.