Teen Sites for Serious Relationships?

[NotSure]

Hey, I'm 17 about to turn 18 on the 15th, I was wondering if what good site would be for teens looking for a serious relationship. I've found a couple but they were much more geared towards casual dating rather than real love, naturally. :(

It doesn't even have to be officially a dating site, just somewhere where I can find teens with a more mature atmosphere so I can really get to know people. I'm not interested in on-the-surface shallow stuff.

[**Sapphire**]

As I'm not really in to the online dating thing I really can't tell you of some good sites.

Matter of a fact, I don't spend that much time online, except for here our sister forum & couple other forums I go to once in a while that's about the extent of my online time.

Do you have a Facebook account? I've heard pretty decent things about that site.

[aces88]

I really wouldn't know of any, the closest thing I can think of is myspace or facebook. I take it you're still in highschool. Why not make friends in other schools, they're bound to know a few people. I met one of my ex girlfriends at a taco bell after going to her homecoming game.

[NotSure]

I really wouldn't know of any, the closest thing I can think of is myspace or facebook. I take it you're still in highschool. Why not make friends in other schools, they're bound to know a few people. I met one of my ex girlfriends at a taco bell after going to her homecoming game.

Yeah, I'm a senior. The problem is, I have some pretty bad social anxiety, so unless I have to (school, going shopping, etc) I never like being around large groups of people. I can be moderately comfortable at school and stuff because I know I have to be there so I can't possibly feel like I shouldn't be there, but if it's ever a social gathering of any sort that's just for the sake of it, I feel extremely out-of-place. I've never been to a party, school basketball or football game, school dance or prom, etc, etc.

It's pathetic, I know, but I have my reasons for being like this. All my best friends I met online, but none live near me, there's only one that even lives in the same state much less country. :( Meeting people in real life just doesn't work well for me, I'm too awkward at first. That's why I want to meet someone online, where I'm comfortable and better at talking. I meet plenty of people on forums but that's not really the easiest place to find someone you can be in a real relationship with since you never know where they live, if they're looking for someone, what they look like, their interests, etc. it's all pretty random who you'll meet so obviously forums aren't even meant for that.

Oh, and with Facebook or Myspace, you kind of already have to know the person in real life usually. It's not exactly something you can just search for interesting people in your area on. :p

[aces88]

Hmm I can definately understand alot of your sentiment. I had the same social anxiety back in my freshman and sophomore years. But I'm going to be really blunt with you, you're gonna have to trek out into the world at some point and make yourself known. You don't have to be the most popular guy, hell I think that's one of the worst ways to go, but I'd really suggest joining a club or group that you're interested in. Or start picking up hobbies where alot of people can relate too.

As far as interacting with people and the social awkwardness, that'll fade away eventually. Take it slow, but keep doing it. Rome wasn't built in a day, but it was by far built grandly. The biggest thing to remember is most social faux paus are forgotten (or stick with you, but have good sense of humor and it'll turn the tables on anyone).

And if you absolutely have to meet people online, facebook and myspace are still the only one's I can think of....but hey add new friends with similar interests and shoot em a message. Alot of doors are opened just saying hi, and if it doesn't work out, its no big deal. Bon Chance:thumb:

[**Sapphire**]

I have to agree wholeheartedly with the advice that aces88 gave to you.

Couldn't have put it better myself. Sometimes you do have to grit you teeth, dig in & do the things you don't normally do in order to make some friends or a partner.

[stoner]

I never did Myspace, but from my experiences with Facebook, I found many interest groups for just about anything and everything. For example, I have developed a soft spot for acoustic guitars - brandwise - Ovations and Martins, and somehow found an active fan club in FB. By being a fan and posting along in the threads, before I knew it, I began to develop friendships with fellow fans. I must admit that the gals I met there - so far - were drop dead gorgeous, that sometimes I wished that I was still single. :eyebrows:

A one-time college classmate of mine met her soul mate via an on-line fan club for the musical group, Depeche Mode. The possibilities are endless...

Anyway, I will add a + to aces88' response and I am in agreement with him as well. I was once a shy individual myself back in high school, and the only way to really overcome social anxiety is to make yourself known. When boys come to my home to pick up my 16-year old on a date, I tend to be blunt with them too - to show me up front who they really are, instead of "sugar-coating" everything to make themselves likable on the surface.

Being popular is more of a curse than a blessing, and I was living proof of that in HS. I still somehow had an idea how I became a popular figure in my senior year, but that quickly dwindled when I chose a different path. Instead of joining the popular cliques ... the so-called "in crowds," so to speak, I decided to side with the geeks and rejects - as these mean peeps stereotype them. That turned out to be the best move I made, that for the first time in my high school life, managed to dodge summer school. :D

As far as the girls were concerned, well that's a different story altogether due to my reluctance to get involved ... :eyebrows:

Good luck.

[needlove]

I think facebook is not the good place to find a serious relationship regarding to these new privacy policies, so you can't add random people just to find your soulmate. maybe you can search in the internet the best dating site.might help