Baffled
04-02-2010, 12:28 PM
Hi everyone,
I'm in a bit of a bind and would love to hear your opinions on this situation. I met a girl on a chatroom about a month ago and get on really well with her, recently we've been talking on msn a lot and to top it all off she only lives about 5 miles away from me. I'm not particularly into the idea of forming online relationships and from the offset i've been trying to make things more organic, by texting her instead of talking online etc and she's responded well to all of this and there had been strong hints throughout our conversations that we'd both like to meet. Last week I proposed we meet sometime this weekend if she was free, she seemed positive but said she needed to check her calendar. I didn't want to be pushy so i waited a few nights before i asked her again - when she said she still needed to check I thought something wasn't right, if she really wanted to meet me she'd know by now, i thought. So I asked her if she was still up for it - she said she wasn't sure because, she claims, she's dead different in real life, but not personality wise: appearance wise.
I've seen several photos of her and she's been on webcam before my very eyes. She claims very seriously that I won't recognise her and that all her pictures look nothing like her "They might as well be someone else" - i've seen her on cam as i say and it's definitely her, but she openly admits she has incredibly low self esteem and said that she would love to meet me - if she looked the way she did in the pictures. I can't understand what her issue is: a photograph is an accurate representation of your appearance, is it not? Yes, there are good ones and bad ones but they cannot completely change your appearance. She's definitely an attractive girl but is convinced I'd be really surprised seeing her. Does this sound like an authentic concern to you or does this sound like someone with incredibly low self esteem who convinces herself her good pictures don't actually look like her. Ladies, can pictures really be that deceptive? She talks about over exposure and the pictures being played with etc, but i've even seen a spontaneous one of her with her friends, a full body one is well (as i suspected she might be thinking of her weight) Basically all I need to know is could she possibly be right in what she says? Is this someone I want to get involved with? Before this she's seemed like a perfectly balanced person
Thanks a lot,
Baffled
I'm in a bit of a bind and would love to hear your opinions on this situation. I met a girl on a chatroom about a month ago and get on really well with her, recently we've been talking on msn a lot and to top it all off she only lives about 5 miles away from me. I'm not particularly into the idea of forming online relationships and from the offset i've been trying to make things more organic, by texting her instead of talking online etc and she's responded well to all of this and there had been strong hints throughout our conversations that we'd both like to meet. Last week I proposed we meet sometime this weekend if she was free, she seemed positive but said she needed to check her calendar. I didn't want to be pushy so i waited a few nights before i asked her again - when she said she still needed to check I thought something wasn't right, if she really wanted to meet me she'd know by now, i thought. So I asked her if she was still up for it - she said she wasn't sure because, she claims, she's dead different in real life, but not personality wise: appearance wise.
I've seen several photos of her and she's been on webcam before my very eyes. She claims very seriously that I won't recognise her and that all her pictures look nothing like her "They might as well be someone else" - i've seen her on cam as i say and it's definitely her, but she openly admits she has incredibly low self esteem and said that she would love to meet me - if she looked the way she did in the pictures. I can't understand what her issue is: a photograph is an accurate representation of your appearance, is it not? Yes, there are good ones and bad ones but they cannot completely change your appearance. She's definitely an attractive girl but is convinced I'd be really surprised seeing her. Does this sound like an authentic concern to you or does this sound like someone with incredibly low self esteem who convinces herself her good pictures don't actually look like her. Ladies, can pictures really be that deceptive? She talks about over exposure and the pictures being played with etc, but i've even seen a spontaneous one of her with her friends, a full body one is well (as i suspected she might be thinking of her weight) Basically all I need to know is could she possibly be right in what she says? Is this someone I want to get involved with? Before this she's seemed like a perfectly balanced person
Thanks a lot,
Baffled