Could you or have you ever....

[lisa843]

forgiven someone for cheating on you? What was the end result?? Did they do it again? Did you stay together or break up?? :confused:




I forgave my ex for cheating several times...but he kept on repeating the cheating...so I had to finally let him go. I never thought I would have even considered staying with someone if they cheated and can't believe I stayed as long as I did...smh...

[aussiecoffee007]

i dotn think i would... not to be harsh but i would be too hurt to make a clean start of it, and itd be hard to give them my trust again. i have issues trusting people wholly and to be with someone i have to trust them and if they break that... thats the most important part of a relationship :(

[lisa843]

I agree....trust and communication go hand in hand with a loving relationship...if it is broken (the trust and communication) it is very hard to recover and get over.

[Tuxie]

My situation wasn't a case of 'cheating' per se. I did forgive, and move on. And, I agree... communication and trust are vital to any relationship.

[mashmac]

I would forgive if I really want to be with the person. I believe and know it can make you stronger. I was forgiven.

[lisa843]

I agree mashmac. None of us really know what we would do..until we are actually faced with that situation...and all relationships are different. It is good to be forgiving but as I learned...sometimes it comes to a point where you can forgive..but you have to let go...for your own sake. Some people will take advantage of a loving and forgiving heart and continue to abuse that trust...if you let them. It is best (for the injured person) to forgive...but they must also be strong enough to not let anyone walk all over them. :)I would forgive if I really want to be with the person. I believe and know it can make you stronger. I was forgiven.

[cranberries]

I couldnt ever see myself being able to stay with someone after they cheated on me. It would be hard enough for me to forgive them. I think it violates the most sacred areas of a relationship. It also deteriates the persons whole being. Even though I like to hold consistancy with my beleifs. I could see how... in certain situations, where there could be the chance of rebuilding a stronger relationship from the shattered ruins. But I'd really really have to love the **** out of them. Again, the condition would have to be preceise; the chances of that are slim to none. If that makes sense at all :p (it's late haha)

[Penguin_Woman]

I think I could forgive. I'm a pretty forgiving person. I think I've forgiven and been forgiven of a lot in my lifetime. :) So, it's only fair. Especially if it's someone I love with all my heart.

[aussiecoffee007]

you know, tuxette, thats a good point, i consider myself a forgiving person i guess i just consider them differnet things... hmm i will think about this :)

[Sara]

I don't think I would be able to forgive, it would always be in my mind that if they do it once they can easily do it again.

[Riggs]

forgiven someone for cheating on you? What was the end result?? Did they do it again? Did you stay together or break up?? :confused:






I forgave my ex for cheating several times...but he kept on repeating the cheating...so I had to finally let him go. I never thought I would have even considered staying with someone if they cheated and can't believe I stayed as long as I did...smh...

I may forgive (God says I should), but as far as the marriage, it will be over. I don't cheat and I want the same in return.