My trip to Europe, is she upset over it.

[thedude]

Well I've been dating S for about 2 months now, when I first met her I told her I would be going to Europe for 2 months in the summer and she was ok with it. Should I just stop seeing her for a bit? Its tough because we aren't officialy an item even though we kiss every time I drop her off. I think my trip is stopping us from going to the next level of our relationship. I think both of us don't want to commit, knowing I will be gone for 2 months. What's the best way to keep her interested while I'm here, so when I come back we can possibly start over?

[aussiecoffee007]

i think it depends on how much you like this girl. if shes worth not doing anything for and staying faithful to while youre away in europe, then i would do it and take the step. and i think youre pretty much an item if you kiss every time at the end of your date... and if not, just explain that youre going to be away for 2 months but youre really looking forward to getting things started when come back or something.
also welcoem to ATLF. im sure one of our other wonderful members will write back shortly :)

[mashmac]

Exactly like Aussie says...you are kissing so that seems to indicate you are more than just friends! And the separation might be good as it will both allow you to see if this is a story that you want to take to the next level as you say.

You won't really struggle to be faithful if you really care about her. Now - you are not engaged to be married either. As Aussie says tell her you are looking forward to seeing her again. And email works in Europe very well!
We do have internet cafes all over the place! So you can be in touch if you want to.

But don't make this complicated, enjoy your trip first - you will have an amazing time. And then you'll go back home and see what happens. Keep it simple.
Let me warn you that there are plenty of beautiful women here too... You seem young and it's summertime, so well, people do take it easy.

[thedude]

Thanks for the input guys. Recently she has become very moody. Although she still asks me to do things when I show up, she's very quite. It's like she's pushing me away through not talking. She was very warm at the beginning but as time goes and an comes closer to my trip she's more moody. It feels like she wants me to end it b4 I leave, so there's no emotional attachment. Should I just take it slow and see her when I can, or should I tell her that we should take it slow, because I don't want to hurt her while I'm gone. She was supposed to come meet me for a week in Europe and she just said she might not be able to go because she will be moving that week and that she has 2 weeks to cancel her ticket. I said it would be nice for her to come, but I don't want to beg. Any suggestions?

[mashmac]

You are talking about her not wanting emotional attachment because you are traveling but what do you want? You want this to be serious now or not? You want her to join you in Europe? You want her not to date anyone while you are gone? You are not moving countries, you are just going overseas for a while and you'll go back.