Should i apologize to him?

[stupidm]

I'm working for my professor as research assistant, but i seem to like him, although i'm not quite sure about that feeling, and whether he likes me.
Last week when he asked me to do some trivial things like paying the bills, i'm not very happy about this, coz i have to take an important test in a week and i'm very busy preparing it, so i have not enough time to do it. Then i said something that annoyed him which i regreted later, do i need to send an email to him to apologize for that? because i am afraid that he will never find me to be his assistant later.

i might be sensitive and too worried about this, but i would like to make good relationship with him, what do i do?

[~Teej~]

You have a test to prepare for and that has to be what you have to focus on at the moment because this is your career. So you were right in telling him that your test is what you have to focus on.

What was said to him though that made him get annoyed at you?...

We all say things in the heat of the moment that we regret later, so try not to worry too much unless of course it was something quite bad..

And welcome to ATLF, we are all very friendly and supportive here, kinda like a big happy family :D

[stupidm]

What was said to him though that made him get annoyed at you?...



Thank you meerkat, i feel very warm here. it's very nice to have this big and friendly family:)

Actually this is a long story, he used to have another assistant who is asigned by the school, so she is the one to help him to do the assistant stuff. But one day he came to me and told me that he wanted me to be his assistant coz i made quite good presentations in his class. He paid money for my work, but i think he also had that girl working for him at the same time. And he didn't say what kind of work is my job and what is hers. So last time he asked me to pay his bills (electrisity, gas....). i was unhappy and said to him:"Is that ***(that girl's name)'s job?" He replied to me that he had communication problems with that girl, and it was not the problem of english. And i stupidly asked again "then what's the problem?" so he seemed to be mad at me that time. i know that he might be not really angry, but i don't want him to think i'm a narrow-minded person.

[~Teej~]

It's not your problem if he has fallen out with this girl...he should try and sort that out and not get angry with you about it.

I don't think that you have done anything wrong here..

But you could say I am sorry that I pryed into something that I shouldn't have the next time you see him.

Just let him know that at the moment your test has to come first and that the was reason you couldn't do those things. It wasn't that you didn't want to.

I am sure that things will be fine.

[stupidm]

I know what to do now, thanks meerkat, you give me very good advice:)

[~Teej~]

Awwww

You are welcome...Glad I could help :D

[Penguin_Woman]

Welcome to ATLF, stupidm. We're glad you could join. It seems your question has been answered but I wanted to welcome you. :)

[stupidm]

Thanks everybody, i'm very happy to share my feelings here and have so many nice friends:)
My problem has been solved, yesterday i sent an email to my professor and he seems to be not annoyed at me at all and he also invite me to dinner, i'm very happy:)

[Penguin_Woman]

:D Great! So happy to hear it. :)

[lisa843]

I have a question...if you don't mind. I know you said your problem was solved but...

you said: "I'm working for my professor as research assistant, but i seem to like him, although i'm not quite sure about that feeling, and whether he likes me."
I wanted to know...was this relationship only "teacher/student"?? What were you not sure about your "feelings"?? I don't want to assume anything...and you do seem to have a good sense by taking your big test and responsibilities very serious. I just hope you keep the feelings in tact and hope neither of you cross that line of teacher/student relationship. It is very easy to develope feelings and those would be very inappropriate while you are his student and could cause many problems. Just some thoughts to consider...

Good luck with all your studies and such. Stay focused...and strong. take care. :)

[stupidm]

dear goldie, i really appreciate that you read my post so carefully, and i do have those problems you said. :)
i like my professor because he looks like the same age as i do (although he maybe ten years older), good looking and humorous, he is just the type of person i like. but i never thought that we would cross the line of teacher/student relationship. however, sometimes he will talk with me in a flirting way, i don't know, maybe i'm too old-fashion, but it is really over the teacher/student relationship i think. none of other professors talk with me that way. so he gives me an illusion.

[Riggs]

I'm working for my professor as research assistant, but i seem to like him, although i'm not quite sure about that feeling, and whether he likes me.
Last week when he asked me to do some trivial things like paying the bills, i'm not very happy about this, coz i have to take an important test in a week and i'm very busy preparing it, so i have not enough time to do it. Then i said something that annoyed him which i regreted later, do i need to send an email to him to apologize for that? because i am afraid that he will never find me to be his assistant later.

i might be sensitive and too worried about this, but i would like to make good relationship with him, what do i do?

Always do what feels right in your heart.