Old Friend

[Baby Boy]

I've known this girl for five years and we've only been close during the first year. The last four years we haven't spoken much and it's only for a week or two at a time. She's always been in relationships and never had time for considering a relationship with me.

She messaged me out of nowhere a week ago and we texted for 15 minutes or whatever. I said I was busy and she said text back later. I sent a text to her later that night and it wasn't much of a conversation. You know how it feels when you're forcing conversation? It was like that. The next couple of days went by without any communication, so I sent her a text and she didn't reply.

I've learned many times to not force these things, and understand that women are just hot and cold. I made a slick move (she would be forced to send a return message) and sent her a christmas text and it just said Merry Christmas to you and your family. She messaged back with the same, and yesterday I sent her a message and I just don't feel a vibe. She said hey what's up? I'm at my ex- boyfriend's house and said we should text later (I heard they just broke up). Maybe you'll say it's impossible to get a vibe to someone through text messages but I don't feel like she's into talking. I'm thinking she was only down for catching up and that's it. I think that sucks because I like talking to her and she's cool. Her mind is probably on her ex boyfriend and working that out.

I already deleted her phone number because I don't like to feel like a dumbass. I don't like making an effort to keep in contact with someone who obviously isn't interested in that. Maybe I'm overreacting but I feel like I'm doing the right thing by just letting go.

[Pink]

It seems you are doing the right thing. It's possible that she isn't as into you as you are her, but that's okay. You just have to remember that it's her loss.

[**Sapphire**]

Well if you 2 were friends that lost touch, then maybe that was what it was, just catching up with the possibility of hanging out every once in a while.

It sucks if you had feelings for her & she isn't or hasn't returned them in all the years you 2 have known each other.

I personally think you may be a tad bit too harsh, if you 2 have only been friends during this time frame & for most of it not that close of friends, then it's more like it's been. Saying Hi for a bit, catching up & then going back to the way it was before.

Some friends come in to your life like that though, for a little bit, to catch up & then disappear, there's no rhyme or reason to it. Over the years I've had that happen to me alot. I just enjoy the time I had catching up & at least know they were thinking of me enough to contact me.

[lovelee]

You sound like a good dude. Pink is right. Its her lost. If her mind is indeed on her ex-boyfriend thats a situation you can do nothing about. Treat it as such. Baggage wouldn't be that good of an idea anyway. You'll find someone who wants to actually show interest instead of finding available reasons to put you off. Hang in there, there's room in your phone for other numbers.

[Baby Boy]

Well if you 2 were friends that lost touch, then maybe that was what it was, just catching up with the possibility of hanging out every once in a while.


Probably. I've always had a little spark for her, so every time we catch up I secretly hope for more. And I thought what you said is perfect. I felt like Ben Stiller in There's Something About Mary. He runs into Mary and they talk for a while, and he asks her to dinner so they can catch up. She says "Didn't we just do that?" but she's joking. Only in my situation this girl isn't joking around, and she just wanted to see how I was doing.

Thank you to everyone for the advice. It's easier to understand these things with help.

[dawningstar]

Ahhh, sometimes, we get in moods where we think of people we have lost touch with and wonder how they are doing, we might even text or call them and chat a while.... while we might or might not want to continue on a daily or even weekly chat!!! Doesn't mean we don't care, just that we wanted to say hey, I was thinking of you, remembering the good times and just wanted to send you a big hello and hope everything is fine....

I wouldn't delete everything as you could send the odd hi, thinking of you, smile joke, and if she response great if not that is okay too.... if it is meant to be it will be, and if not you can still send the odd hello lol....