Davey Crockett
04-05-2006, 04:07 PM
Tips On How To Give a Relationship Advice
In one way or another, we are involved in any kind of relationship whether interpersonal or something intimate. We define relationship as the kind of bond which exists between people who are connected to and have contacts with each other. In other words, they are related with one another and share something in common.
Interpersonal relationship refers to the social connections and affiliations between two or more individuals. It differs according the level of sharing and closeness which implies the search for the shared position. On the other hand, Intimate relationship is a social association wherein there is involvement physically and emotionally. It is commonly portrayed as something loving or fervent affection and love. There may or maybe involvement of sexual act.
We experience that our relationship has undergone several stages of development such as contact, involvement, intimacy and deterioration. There are various types of interpersonal relationship namely: family relationships, consanguinity, marriage affinity, romantic relationships, friendship, casual relationships, soulmates, platonic love, and acquaintanceship. For every relationship that was mentioned, there should be important skills and shared position in order to survive and make the relationship enduring and lasting. There should be trust, committed, humilisty and an unconditional love so as to make the relationship withstand any storm or problems .
However, we can not refute the fact that in every relationship there will be problems which will do some damage to the valued relationship. Like for example in the family. We will have conflict between the husband and the wife. The children can no longer relate to their parents because they are too busy. There is also the sibling rivalry. Children quarrel among themselves. Mother-in-law against daughter-in-law. There will always be problems between boyfriends and girlfriends. The same thing will happen between friends, acquaintances and casual relationships.
Unexpected cracks to the relationship will happen without knowledge of both parties involved because usually it starts from insignificant details and little misunderstanding. We will only realize that there is a problem when nobody cares anymore. You are taken for granted as if you do not exist. That is the worst tragedy for a person. When people are indifferent and you are left alone.
As friends or family members, they can come to us for consolation or for advices. This is hard for some people to do. Dispensing advice can be quite hard especially if you’re not used to it or if you are afraid that your advice will backfire.
There are some things you have to keep in mind before you give out relationship advices:
• Be impartial – Listen to the whole story first and don’t be judgmental. Your advice should always be for the good. Even if the person who is seeking your advice is your friend or family member, you should provide them with an advice that would benefit their relationship best, not just the other person.
• Keep an open mind – even if the person doesn’t heed your advice, do not take it personally. It is still his or her decision to make on what steps to do in his or her relationship.
• Keep Quiet and Listen - Sometimes what the person really needs is someone to talk to. They maybe asking for advice but this is done only half-heartedly. Just be a good listener and let her or him pour their hearts out.
• Talk calmly – Don’t get involved in the fight, being emotional would only cloud your judgment making you dispense an advice that could just make things worse.
In one way or another, we are involved in any kind of relationship whether interpersonal or something intimate. We define relationship as the kind of bond which exists between people who are connected to and have contacts with each other. In other words, they are related with one another and share something in common.
Interpersonal relationship refers to the social connections and affiliations between two or more individuals. It differs according the level of sharing and closeness which implies the search for the shared position. On the other hand, Intimate relationship is a social association wherein there is involvement physically and emotionally. It is commonly portrayed as something loving or fervent affection and love. There may or maybe involvement of sexual act.
We experience that our relationship has undergone several stages of development such as contact, involvement, intimacy and deterioration. There are various types of interpersonal relationship namely: family relationships, consanguinity, marriage affinity, romantic relationships, friendship, casual relationships, soulmates, platonic love, and acquaintanceship. For every relationship that was mentioned, there should be important skills and shared position in order to survive and make the relationship enduring and lasting. There should be trust, committed, humilisty and an unconditional love so as to make the relationship withstand any storm or problems .
However, we can not refute the fact that in every relationship there will be problems which will do some damage to the valued relationship. Like for example in the family. We will have conflict between the husband and the wife. The children can no longer relate to their parents because they are too busy. There is also the sibling rivalry. Children quarrel among themselves. Mother-in-law against daughter-in-law. There will always be problems between boyfriends and girlfriends. The same thing will happen between friends, acquaintances and casual relationships.
Unexpected cracks to the relationship will happen without knowledge of both parties involved because usually it starts from insignificant details and little misunderstanding. We will only realize that there is a problem when nobody cares anymore. You are taken for granted as if you do not exist. That is the worst tragedy for a person. When people are indifferent and you are left alone.
As friends or family members, they can come to us for consolation or for advices. This is hard for some people to do. Dispensing advice can be quite hard especially if you’re not used to it or if you are afraid that your advice will backfire.
There are some things you have to keep in mind before you give out relationship advices:
• Be impartial – Listen to the whole story first and don’t be judgmental. Your advice should always be for the good. Even if the person who is seeking your advice is your friend or family member, you should provide them with an advice that would benefit their relationship best, not just the other person.
• Keep an open mind – even if the person doesn’t heed your advice, do not take it personally. It is still his or her decision to make on what steps to do in his or her relationship.
• Keep Quiet and Listen - Sometimes what the person really needs is someone to talk to. They maybe asking for advice but this is done only half-heartedly. Just be a good listener and let her or him pour their hearts out.
• Talk calmly – Don’t get involved in the fight, being emotional would only cloud your judgment making you dispense an advice that could just make things worse.