clueless24
08-08-2009, 06:21 PM
thanks everyone for reading and commenting! =)
I am a bit confused about my feelings/friend's feelings toward me. we have been friends for a few years now and have been really close with no previous problems. i am 26 and have been in a relationship for the last 7 years and have not really had much dating experience. my ex and i decided to "separate" since we don't have the intimacy we used to anymore. we still keep in contact and go out together sometimes but nothing intimate. i have never had feelings for this friend before but recently i developed feelings for him but am really afraid to show it because i am not sure how he feels. he's always been interested in my relationship problems/status but it could just be genuine concern for a friend.
we go out together on the weekends a lot and study together often. he had commented a few times that i was a really good friend of his and "like a sister to him" so from that i gather that he's not interested. he also talks about how hot other girls are and asks me for my opinion about his "potentials". however, when we go out and i am not quite so sober by the end of the night, we would go home with friends and he would always have me on his lap and his arms around me. he would text the next day to see how i am and all that.
last night, i crashed at his place instead of going home. it's the first time i have crashed at his place. he has some girls and guys from the club over and i was feeling a bit tired so i went to one of the extra rooms to sleep. he came in and tucked me and made sure i was comfortable then went back to his friends. in the middle the night, he opened the door and woke me up bc he said his dogs wanted to sleep with me. because he doesn't want one of his dog with a bad back to sleep in a high bed, he told me to go down to the basement room where the bed was lower so the dogs can sleep with me. so i went down to the basement with the dogs.
i thought he was going to sleep in his bedroom but instead he brought a pillow and slept next to me in the same bed. we said goodnight and remained on separate side of the bed till morning when he leaned over and put his hand across my chest pulling me closer. i woke up and told him i was getting up to take the dogs out. since it was still early, i got back in bed and neither one of us reach reached over so we just slept for a bit more. i got up later and took him to his car and left.
i am sure if he's showing interest or if i am just reading more into it because i am drawing from my own feelings . i would appreciate any insights/comments/suggestions about this. i am not a type of person to go ask him or initiate anything but i would really like to know what's going on . he's younger than i am by 2 years so i guess he's still out and about. thanks all for reading and commenting! i appreciate it.
I am a bit confused about my feelings/friend's feelings toward me. we have been friends for a few years now and have been really close with no previous problems. i am 26 and have been in a relationship for the last 7 years and have not really had much dating experience. my ex and i decided to "separate" since we don't have the intimacy we used to anymore. we still keep in contact and go out together sometimes but nothing intimate. i have never had feelings for this friend before but recently i developed feelings for him but am really afraid to show it because i am not sure how he feels. he's always been interested in my relationship problems/status but it could just be genuine concern for a friend.
we go out together on the weekends a lot and study together often. he had commented a few times that i was a really good friend of his and "like a sister to him" so from that i gather that he's not interested. he also talks about how hot other girls are and asks me for my opinion about his "potentials". however, when we go out and i am not quite so sober by the end of the night, we would go home with friends and he would always have me on his lap and his arms around me. he would text the next day to see how i am and all that.
last night, i crashed at his place instead of going home. it's the first time i have crashed at his place. he has some girls and guys from the club over and i was feeling a bit tired so i went to one of the extra rooms to sleep. he came in and tucked me and made sure i was comfortable then went back to his friends. in the middle the night, he opened the door and woke me up bc he said his dogs wanted to sleep with me. because he doesn't want one of his dog with a bad back to sleep in a high bed, he told me to go down to the basement room where the bed was lower so the dogs can sleep with me. so i went down to the basement with the dogs.
i thought he was going to sleep in his bedroom but instead he brought a pillow and slept next to me in the same bed. we said goodnight and remained on separate side of the bed till morning when he leaned over and put his hand across my chest pulling me closer. i woke up and told him i was getting up to take the dogs out. since it was still early, i got back in bed and neither one of us reach reached over so we just slept for a bit more. i got up later and took him to his car and left.
i am sure if he's showing interest or if i am just reading more into it because i am drawing from my own feelings . i would appreciate any insights/comments/suggestions about this. i am not a type of person to go ask him or initiate anything but i would really like to know what's going on . he's younger than i am by 2 years so i guess he's still out and about. thanks all for reading and commenting! i appreciate it.