How to break up?

[random1]

well, i've been w/ my bf for over a yr now. but, it's just that there're some outside issues, which cant be solved. Well, we probably both know that we'll break up sooner or later, but i just want to end it soon, so it wont hurt us that badly later on. so, is there any ways that i can end this relationship without directly saying "let's break up." to him?

[Tuxie]

well, i've been w/ my bf for over a yr now. but, it's just that there're some outside issues, which cant be solved. Well, we probably both know that we'll break up sooner or later, but i just want to end it soon, so it wont hurt us that badly later on. so, is there any ways that i can end this relationship without directly saying "let's break up." to him?
First of all, welcome to ATLF random1. We hope you'll find it friendly and helpful here. :D

Hmm... interesting question you ask. Have you ever seen the movie "How to lose a guy in 10 days"? j/k!! :) Well, I'd maybe sit down with him and go over some of these 'outside issues'. If they're truly as unsolvable as you say they are, possibly you won't have to make the 'break up' on your own. This way, you might make him see that your relationship is going nowhere also. Just my two cents....

Hope this helps, let us know what happens.

[Penguin_Woman]

Welcome, random1. I would agree. Talk about these circumstances...explain that it seems pretty clear that things don't seem to be heading anywhere with you guys. Perhaps he will agree. Good luck. Keep us updated.