I have a manipulative mother

[Anonymous89]

Hi everyone. What do you do when you have a manipulative mother who is constantly controlling everything you do, such as scolding you when you use the public toilet, scolding you for every little things, etc.

I am already no longer a child, I dont need people to keep restricting all my actions. Why can't she stop controlling me? Why must she be such a *****? I shouldnt be saying this about my own mother, but I have tolerated her nonsense for a very long time. Her negativity, controlling, manipulative attitude is really getting offhand.

I need some suggestions regarding this problem. Thanks!

[Tony]

sounds like to me your Mother does not want to let you go

maybe its her way of showing you that she still loves you and wants what she thinks is best for you

you may need to let her know that you are old enough to make your own choices in life
and say how else am I supposed to learn
I think it could be time to have a chat with her about this also

I think the reason why she is controlling is because she has made some mistakes in her young days and does not want to see you make the same mistakes
this wont be easy because its your Mother

[**Sapphire**]

I agree with Tony Anonymous. The best thing you can do right now is have a sit down talk with your mom. Let her know that you are old enough to do the things she's trying to control you on. Tell her that you need to make your own decisions & possible mistakes.

How else are you to learn & experience anything if your mother is always controlling things?

BTW...I moved you thread to our Off Topic forum as it really doesn't pertain to relationship help. :)

[The jatsman]

"...and now I have spotted it..." says the chameleon grinding his teeth having come across one or two such creatures in his past "...and so l throw in my rare two penneth worth here then on such matters. Be brave, nip it in the bud now, the advice you have been given here, as per usual is perfect, and if you can not deal with her face to face, as no doubt she will twist your words and the conversation to her shape, then write to her about how you feel, not forgetting to compliment her on the lessons she has taught you so well that prepare you now, and even if this battle does not go as you wish, at first, do not give up and fight it again. Assert your self before it is too late as she will not give in easily, for if you give in you will drift into adulthood like many young women do where nothing and no ONE will ever be good enough for dear mother. She should be proud of you and let you run free and be there for you, when need be..."

"if you help them choose their own path it will always lead back to you"

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[~Teej~]

You need to talk to her and tell her...she can't still treat you as a child now.
Talk to her and sort if out don't put up with it

[The Gr8 Eight]

I can relate my mom was like that then I kinda said a few things and she started to understand what I was saying.

[Ruby Saturday]

It is hard being a mum.

My youngest was 16 before I decided I had to stop telling her to make sure she was wearing warm clothes when she went out. Mums nag or control because they care. It is hard to stop because a mum will see her child and still think of him or her as a child rather than being nearly grown-up or grown-up.

Not only that, but some kids do little more than grunt and hardly talk in the animated and excited way they did when much younger, and the nagging is a way of getting some reaction from their child.

It's hard being a mum as well as being a son/daughter.