unrequited love?

[lostforever]

hello all :)

so ive been friends with this guy for over 5 years now, never met him in real life since he lives so far away from where im at, but that hasnt stopped us from becoming best friends. hes my favorite person in the planet, i feel like i can talk to him about everything and we have so many things in common.

anyways so things had been great for a long time, but then one day while he was on a trip and we hadnt talked for a couple of days, i started thinking of how much i missed him and it just started from there. most days i wasnt even sure of what i felt, its just so confusing falling for ur best friend.

its been happening for about 8 months now, it comes and goes away, this love i feel, but one night i got so sick of not knowing what was goin on that i told him. i cant say i didnt have any hopes, i mean we have such an amazing connection that i thought maybe, just maybe he felt the same way.

his first reaction when i told him was a big what, he made me feel like he had no idea i had feelings for him when i was pretty sure it was somewhat obvious that i did. that night i told him he didnt really say anything, he was just shocked but didnt give me the friends speech or anything, he just didnt say a goddamn thing.

then about 4 days passed and he finally asked me questions about it, like how it had happened and all that stuff, i told him but again he didnt say what he thought of it, he just kept asking more things about it and not telling me what was going thru his head.

thats what brings me to posting here .i feel like hes changed the way he talks to me, the way he is since i told him. hes become a little bit flirty and we just became even closer than ever. it seems like all we ever do is talk, but for the life of me i cant figure out what he wants from me and im way too scared to ask.

so what do you guys think? is he just stringing me on? is he afraid? should i just give up and get over it? why the hell didnt he just give me the friends speech and crushed my hopes so i could move on?

i really need advice since i cant talk to this to my friends in real life, they would just think im crazy.

thank you.

[**Sapphire**]

Welcome to ATLF, I'm glad that you have joined us here. :)

He may not know how to take what you have told him & as such he's being a little different. Not very nice, but some people don't know how to express themselves when a friend tells them they have feelings for them.

The best thing you could do is have a talk with him. Send him an email or something & let him know that ever since you told him of your feelings that he's become distant. Ask him if there is anything wrong & if there is, to let you know, you 2 are friends first & foremost.

[Beautiful Mystique]

Have a talk with him. Ask him what's going on. Tell him that if he doesn't feel the same way, let you know so that you can move on.