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[josieblue]

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[Daisy duke]

hi ...me an my ex husband did everthing together ..we used to go out clubbing an dance all nite ,his friends were my friends so when we split i had one childhood freind left ....
i go on a few websites to do with things i like ...i suggest you do the same ..on the net pic a subject an somewhere you will find a forum ...im into my music as well as fitness ,,,so on a music forum in my area i got talking an eventually to know some of the people on there....i put up a thread saying now im findingit hard to meet new people into the scene an im needing to branch out to meet new peeps to go out with ...
a week passed an this girl got in touch via message saying she had been in the same boat an i was welcome to comeout with them anytime ...!
so this wknd i went out she met me off the train ..an i met her man an his friends an it was brilliant ...everyone so friendly im well happy now that i put that thread up ...it s opened doors...
then a few weeks ago i got talking to this girl in the toilets in a club an we exchanged numbers an i plan to meet up with her an her friends in the near future....

you ve got to make it happen .! no one will come knock on your door an say hi im gonna turn your life around. im gonna get you some new friends ...it all down to you ...
join a club doing something new ..or something your interested in .it will life you an give you self esteem....i know how you must be feeling ..ive been there ..when my kids have been in bed at nite an its been cold outside ...i ve felt so lonely ...that was before i got my pc....this thing has been my godsend......
wish you luck xx Amanda

[Penguin_Woman]

Well, what was it exactly that was done to you? 10 years is a long time to hold onto a hurt or a grudge. I think it's time you try to forgive them (whether they know it or not) and try to move on. Your only hurting yourself by holding onto that. All the therepists and classes and whatever will do no good if you aren't ready to let go.

[josieblue]

:mad: I will never forgive them after what they did to me! I think the therapy is a lot of B.S. LET ME DECIDE IF I WANT TO MOVE ON!! I suggest you remove this B.S. response cause it's not helping me :mad:
Well, what was it exactly that was done to you? 10 years is a long time to hold onto a hurt or a grudge. I think it's time you try to forgive them (whether they know it or not) and try to move on. Your only hurting yourself by holding onto that. All the therepists and classes and whatever will do no good if you aren't ready to let go.

[Penguin_Woman]

:mad: I will never forgive them after what they did to me! I think the therapy is a lot of B.S. LET ME DECIDE IF I WANT TO MOVE ON!! I suggest you remove this B.S. response cause it's not helping me :mad:
'Fraid not. I stand by my response. If you could move on you would have already. If that came off harsh it was not meant to. You still did not answer my question

[josieblue]

'Fraid not. I stand by my response. If you could move on you would have already. If that came off harsh it was not meant to. You still did not answer my question
I'm sorry I was so harsh on you,:o but the quote you made sounds like I should forget my problems out of the blue. No I will not forget it very easily and I never will. I need some supportive response that will ease my pain of what I'm going through. Once again I will never forgive the people who hurt me. I,ve been hurt too many times! and I forgave too many times! I'm so sick of being hurt by people. I'm trying as hard as I can to move on with my life, but it's not that easy. It will take me a very long time for me to heal. :(

[Daisy duke]

hello again ...listen if one lets go off the hurt,or any bitterness.. then they are freed to move on in life...i know ..ive been thru many things heartache tears ..i ve had it ruff i can tell you that much ...when i was 17 i met a lad fell for him an he ended up beating me black an blue .i was terrified of him ,i stayed for nearly 4 yrs..i have scars from that relaitonship .after i did leave ..because i realised i d have to prob kill him to stop him oneday killing me ..anyway i left with nothing i had no councelling i was a angry person for about 4 of 5 years.i had a i dont give a f*** attitude..no one could hurt me ..i went in an out of relaitonships ..lucky i didnt have kids then ..i hated him ,depspised him for what he did to me the coward..,i looked back an thought what was i ever scared of ...it was pycological a lot of the torment ...oneday i read a artical or some book ..about letting og of anger...an i finally thought i forgive you ...not for him for me ......an i gradually grapsed it ...hes not worth me going thru life like that carrying that burden cos it eats away ....gets into your soul ....
dont let it ....
i freed myself...it can be done just change the way you think .i find i had to block out eith willpower thoughts of a negative kind an make myself think happy stuff...sounds silly to some but it works believe me .............

love an best wishes ...'you deserve the best '....say that to yourself everyday in the shower on your way to work ..anywhere and watch your life change

xx Amanda

[Tuxie]

I'm sorry I was so harsh on you,:o but the quote you made sounds like I should forget my problems out of the blue. No I will not forget it very easily and I never will. I need some supportive response that will ease my pain of what I'm going through. Once again I will never forgive the people who hurt me. I,ve been hurt too many times! and I forgave too many times! I'm so sick of being hurt by people. I'm trying as hard as I can to move on with my life, but it's not that easy. It will take me a very long time for me to heal. :(
Hmm.... "forget your problems out of the blue"? Well, you don't need to worry about that. You've already held onto this problem far too long. I'm sorry for your resentment... I wish I had some magic pixie dust to make everything better... but unfortunately, that's not the way it works. The power to forgive and heal must come from within ourselves. Now, you can either start forgiving and begin the healing process... or you can hate the rest of your life and be a hateful, despised person. The choice is yours.

:mad: I will never forgive them after what they did to me! I think the therapy is a lot of B.S. LET ME DECIDE IF I WANT TO MOVE ON!! I suggest you remove this B.S. response cause it's not helping me :mad:
This much is true, it is YOUR DECISION to move on or not. It sounds like you've made your choice a long time ago.

Actually, it is not your place to suggest to remove posts. It is at the discretion of the Administration and Moderators. As I have stated in the past... if you don't want something posted, DON'T POST IT!!!! And just because you feel like it's not helping you, doesn't mean it's not helping someone else. The post will stay. :)