There's this guy that I really like, and I know that he likes me too...

[gsusisking]

The thing is that we are both pretty shy. We first saw each other where he works and totally made a connection the minute we looked at eachother! Everytime I go into where he works, we talk a little, he says something like "wow, thats a really cool shirt" and I'll say "thank you" or something else small just to TRY and get us REALLY talking, but we haven't YET to get into a real conversation because we are both just so nervous! This has been going on for about 2 months now, I don't go in there THAT often maybe ever 2 weeks, but it never fails, everytime I'm in there he so obviously nervous but we both still attempt to say SOMETHING to eachother! So, last weekend me and my mom ran into a fast food place to grab something, and low and behold, guess who was in that restaurant at the same exact time?! HIM! My mom said the only way to describe him was that he looked like he was going to "pee in his pants!" We kept shotting glances and little smiles at eachother, but thats it. So, with the suggestion of my mom, I wrote him a letter saying that "...I've never done this before... I don't know if you have a girlfriend but if you don't, here's my myspace and cell phone number so that we can talk out side" [of where he works]. I was to nervous to give it to him myself so I had my mom and little sister go buy something at the store he works at, and then give it to him, from me, as if I were at work and wasn't able to! I wasn't at work, like I said, I was just SO nervous. So, he got the letter a week ago. In your opinion, how long should it take for him to respond? We're both so shy so I don't know WHAT to do! What would you do in order to pursue someone you liked if you were both shy, and he hasn't responded to a letter? Do I give the letter more time or move on to a new strategy? Also, I'm 21, so I would need some advice on how to handle this situation other than how you would handle it in say, high school! Thanks for your opinion! Its greatly appreciated!

[summit]

thats the crappy thing about letters, there is too many unkowns, did he get the letter, did he loose it, did he forget it somewhere, did he read it but did not feel the same, did he read it, but is still unable to ask you out. In my opinion if he did in fact read the letter I would think he is not interested for the reason that you gave him 2 ways to contact you, cell phone and myspace, now a cell phone I can understand, some people are shy on the phone, but you would have to be insanely shy to keep him from contacting you through myspace, and he is already proven to be not that shy by initiating conversation. He may simply like you but already have a girlfriend? or I could be wrong as well, but its tough to tell since you did not have a facial reaction to go by.

I would give it some more time, if nothing develops, I might ask him what he thought of the letter you gave him, it could simply be that because it was delivered by your mom and little sis, that he thinks its some kind of joke.

[gsusisking]

Thank you summit. That is true, mabey he didn't take it as serious as he would've if I had given it to him!:p

[gsusisking]

Well, I found out a couple of days ago that he has a girlfriend! My sister recognized him from school and showed me her year book and I looked him up in myspace, he's in a relationship!:eek: Why did he flirt with me (overly for someone in a relationship!)? I'm not sure. Oh, well, it's ok. I DON'T go after 'taken' men, but if ever I found out he's not taken, then I can move on from there! But for now, I've got other things to focus on, like finding a really good acting class! :p

[cyt_411]

i know how it feels when you liked someone and turns out they already have someone... They're better guys out there don't give up.

[LonelyDaisy]

i know how it feels when you liked someone and turns out they already have someone... They're better guys out there don't give up.I agree. I had a crush on this last guy and he rejected me, so I had to give up chasing men and decided to find a normal relationship. Chasing after some1 and finding out there already taken is no fun...:(