Is drinking the only way?

[naomi008]

Hi

Over the last few weeks, a friend and I have been getting a lot closer. He has told me how much I mean to him, however we are both really shy and even though we both know how the other feels its hard to find the courage to show it. It does happen but usually when we have had something to drink first.

I love the moments we spend together. The problem is, it feels as though he is two different people - one when we are tipsy/drunk and can show each other how we feel, and the other just in normal everyday life.

I don't know whether the reason we are so nervous around one another is because we like each other so much.. but shouldn't this make it easier? I really don't want to let what we have go but I can't see it going anywhere if we can't communicate with each other unless we've been drinking..

Does anyone have any advice on what to do in this situation??
Thanks so much

[**Sapphire**]

Welcome to ATLF, glad that you joined us here.

Have you talked to your friend while you 2 aren't typsy about the feelings you have for him & what you think he may have for you? If not, that would be the easiest way to find out what's going on & then work on the feelings or friendship.

Don't drink, just sit down face to face & have a talk about what's in your hearts to each other.

[lisa843]

welcome

yeah, sounds easy enough....just try to sit down and talk with him...
and don't drink. Open up...I'm sure you'll be surprised how easy it will be for you once you get over that first awkward step of just opening up and talking. You don't even have to start with any "heavy" or serious stuff....just talk and spend sober time with him....

good luck...hope you keep us posted. ;)