I'm feeling so sad.....did i do the right thing?

[pika]

Remember i mentioned once that i confess to this colleague of mine that i really liked which is attached??? yah it has been like 3 months since....as what we agreed, we are much more of a friend....and we both know that we are trying our best to act like a friend.....

I have stop all those pursue....sending of gifts.....etc....we still lunch together but we never went out on solo dates anymore.....and we still do care about each other.....we nvr try to overdo things.....

Now.....she got an offer from her ex boss, and the salary offered seems to be of double of what she is earning currently....she is in a dilemma currently and she seeks my advice if she should leave.....

The new job was all that she wanted......working in a bank....the job scope..the salary......but something pull her back to re consider this offer....as initially she did not have the thoughts of leaving...this offer came as a surprise.....

According to her She couldnt decide as in the current workplace.....she is happy with the environment, her job and the colleagues(might be me?).....its a really comfortable environment and recently we have news of some increment and bonus package coming......
she does not wish to regret after leaving as well......

I was very sad for a moment, as there isnt any good reasons to ask her to stay either......so i am not sure if what i advice her seems correct....(i might be bias because i know i still have some feelings for her)
I told her my thoughts...i told her that she should consult her family, including her boyfriend.....As no matter what happen after her move, it is still them that she need support and understanding from.....I told her to consult her current boss...to have a good talk as well.....

I did not directly encourage her to leave(maybe if others, I will….)...nor did i ask her to stay as much as i want to.......but this is the best i could do..........

Do you think i am being selfish????

She has walked into my life and create an impact on me....and i still cannot forget her....so i am having a mixed feeling right now...

Yes maybe her disappearance would be a fresh start for me.....but some where deep in me...i felt so sad.......

i couldnt tell her how i feel.....i try my best to act normal.....i try my best to be on neutral grounds too.....but i know after she leave for the new job, we might lose contacts..........

I know sometimes we meet....we part....this is life......we might meet again......and i am really happy we met.........

[EC]

Put all your emotions aside, take into consideration about her career path, whether it's the direction she wants to take or not. Work environment plays a big role on people's life styles, she should consider that too.

The double pay package sounds attractive, I don't see why she shouldn't take it unless it's a contract position where job stability is low, at least for jobs in this country anyway.

You like her, and if you can give her the very best advise and opinion right now without being selfish, do it, even if it means you won't be working with her. She is still attached, I don't even know why you're still in this and why you have to be worried about all these.

[pika]

Yah i know......i figure the whole of today...and i guess what i say doesnt make an impact on her either...it wouldnt be as if i ask her to stay on, she will for me....thats my foolish way of thinking...i let her decide on her own....

Anyway, i will be having my exams soon, dont wish to think too much into it.