asdf2k
04-17-2007, 09:40 PM
Alright here goes. I have been seeing this girl for about two months, I met her at work. The relationship was going fine, we were friends and well it began becoming more than that. We romantically became involved, at this time she was going through confusion because she was happy being with me, but she still had feelings for her ex, who I must say was a complete a-hole, treated her like crap, no-good, addict, no career total bad news here guys well anywho, I was understanding and wanted to walk away from this because I didnt want it to go bad and ruin a good friendship, but she didnt let me. She wanted me to be there and have hope in us progressing. Well anywho to make story short, two weeks ago she came to me upset because she had seen her ex and he hurt her emotionally and came to apologize, I got upset and of course well I didnt yell at her or nothing, but I explained to her that I just didnt understand why she wanted me around if she wanted to do such things, she agreed not to do it again and keep me and it went a fine and smooth from then on. Then this weekend, I went to a wedding and she told me she couldn't attend with me, for x/y reason. I tried to call her throughout the day as usual to say hi and let her know everything was fine, no answer. Well I got home drunk that night and I well I did the dumbest thing - drunk phonecallls. I call her best friend and she's upset, so inquire why... she explains to me that her boyfriend wasn't treating her right and what not, and I was like well what happened? She begins explaining how they went out with her friends and how she felt bad how her friend (my g/f well now ex) was making out with her b/f and being very affectionate and how hers wasn't... and I was like hold on rewind... her b/f? and that's when she was like oh ****... Of course I got angry, worse I was drunk. Now the girl I've been seeing talked alot of **** about her best friend, and her friend is here tonight defending her, asking me to give her a chance. I was like well if that's the way its going to be fine, I replied to her by saying, You really are a good friend, standing up for her and all, I wish she did the same for you... and I told her everything... "everything". Minutes after I get the phone with her, guess who calls, the girl I was seeing, telling me to please not to start, don't do this, stop putting things in her mind, then I heard another guy in the background yellin' at me (of whom im assuming was her b/f) yelling at me! I hung up on her and we haven't talked since, I sent an apology letter for what I did because it was inmature the way I reacted. The problem is I have so much guilt for doing that because she confided in me with all of those things and I betrayed that trust in a moment of frustration. Should I really be upset and feel guilt? and if so, is this friendship completely doomed? and Will this affect me at work? I know this was long, but I really need to find some advice here. Thanks.