What do I do with all the gifts, pictures, etc...?

[Ocean6891]

So I broke up with my girlfriend about 6 months ago (after a 3 year relationship), and I've been confident in my decision for the most part. Then Christmas came around. She showed up at my house at 2 am Christmas night and I was drunk (pretty obvious what happened there, was not a good decision).. We spent the next few days together and from there it just turned into this situation where she led me on to believe that maybe there was some hope for us but she really had no intention of getting back together so I decided no more communication between us, I need my space. She recently has kept in touch with my family which I really don't appreciate since they have no history prior to us being together. I let her know that I wanted her to keep away from my family and myself. It turned into a whole name calling thing and now we pretty much hate each other. If it makes any difference I certainly don't think it should have gone that far seeing as our relationship was never horrible, just wasn't right, but shes been very manipulative over these past 2 months which is just wrong. Final thing she said was "maybe you'll get to feel the pain I felt now." I broke up with her because I didnt feel I was truly in love! I mean I expected her to hate me in the beginning but I didnt think she would feel that way 6 months later, I did what I thought was best for both of us.

So this brings me to my point, what the hell do I do with all the things? My biggest concern is all the pictures on my computer and other small gifts that shes given me... Is it OK to hold on to them? Doesn't seem right to hit delete or toss them in the garbage. :confused:

[~Teej~]

I would keep them...put them in a box and at the bottom of your cupboard...I don't believe in deleting and tossing things away like that...one day you might what to look back on the good times and remember what was before it got sour.

[stoner]

I beg to differ ...

I'd return them ... even though her feelings were genuine when she gave them at that time. It's no use having that "baggage" occupying space, collecting dust, and keeping yourself reminded of what was once beautiful but lead to the sh!t that it is in the here and now.

That's exactly what I did, with almost every woman I went out with in the past. Even boxed it, and then shipped it back to her. I also mentioned that she could do the same and the feelings would be mutual.

[stoner]

Oh yeah ... having nothing to remind yourself of her makes it a heck of a lot easier for you to move on, and start over with a clean slate. It may not make sense in the here and now, but you'll thank yourself for it later. Good luck.

[**Sapphire**]

Welcome to ATLF, glad that you joined. :)

Well it could go either way, it's really all in how you feel about the gifts, pictures etc. you got over the time you 2 were together.

If you feel boxing them up, to store away is a good idea for now, then go ahead & do that. I did that when I broke up with my ex a while back, I had a bunch of things he gave me, letters, pictures. I boxed them up, put them in the closet & forgot about the box. At the time I boxed them up I didn't feel right thowing them away. About a year after I boxed them up, I was cleaning out my closet, came across that box, I took it straight to the garbage as I know that I didn't want it anymore, I didn't even look at 1 thing in there, just tossed it all.

If you feel that throwing the stuff away or possibly giving the stuff back to her is the way to go, then go for it.

Have a think about what you may think is the best route for you to go & then do it. :):thumb:

[Ocean6891]

I suppose for now I'll just box them up, right now its such an awkward time being that we got in to this huge argument that more or less has us hating each other. During the years we were together I dont think we ever got to a point anywhere near this. Seems like it might be something I'd regret down the road having tossed all the memories. I'll def make sure they are clear out of sight though. Luckily someone else has recently come along that I've taken interest in and thats been a great way to see how its possible to have a future without the ex and potentially even a much better one. Im not a hateful guy by nature though and it sucks seeing where my relationship with the ex has gone, what a rollercoaster ride this has been...

[aussiecoffee007]

i keep all that sort of stuff, im sort of a sentimentalist in that way. i dont thinkt heres anythign wrong with keeping them because the person was a part of your life no matter how the relationship ended, you know?

i thikn you might regret it as well, and its nice to have those reminders of what you had, and probably when you get married or something you wont want to keep it anymore :p

[Ocean6891]

Hey everybody thanks for the insight and wish me luck on feature relationship endeavors and I'll do the same for you because as ****** as this all turned out I still think Love is a pretty sweet thing.

[**Sapphire**]

Best of luck to you Ocean6891!

Remember you can always come here to talk about any new girls you meet. Also come on back to give us updates on how you are doing. :)