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finnibagz
03-02-2009, 01:42 AM
So my junior year of highschool i met this girl in my chemistry class. It started off like any relationship would. We went to the movies a few times and then i asked her out and she said yes. So it was june of 2005 and me and her were hanging out everyday for about 6-10 hours a day. Things were awsome and i couldnt go a day without seeing her. So after about a month i realized that i was deeply in love with her. After the summer of 05 it was are senior year and we were going on 3 months of seeing eachother, still hanging out almost everyday with an exception of maybe a day or two. After about 5 or 6 months we encountered our first real problem as a couple. She had some guy friends that she started to hang out with and my jealousness kicked in when i found out what type of guys she was hanging out with. Well a problem like that wasnt going to end are relationship so we got through it like any couple would. So in june of 2006 as we were getting close to are 1 year and senior prom things couldnt have been better. I was in love and i thought nuthin in the world was going to ruin that. School ended we had a blast are senior year and it was the summer of 06 and neither one of us was headed to college and to me it didnt even matter. I was just so happy being with her it made everything else just seem not so important. At the end of the summer of 06 i joined a junior hockey team. I had the two greatest things going for me at that time. I was deeply in love and playing hockey which i had been doing since the age of 6.

But this is where our relationship started seeing problems. From august to march i was gone almost 75% of the weekends. So i wasnt seeing her on weekends anymore. After some time i got use to it and it was fine. But the trust part of our relationship was being tested hardcore. Problems started happening when i would call her on the weekends when i was away and i wouldnt hear from her. In a year and a half we hadnt gone a day without talking with eachother so this made me a little skeptical. When i got back from my trip the first time she had said she was just out with her friends and didnt get the message. So i believed her cuz i had no reason not too. Well this started to happen more and more and we started to agrue alot about it. so after that season of hockey we were still going out but we never really solved the problems that we had about that. she never wanted to talk about it and i thought i was overreacting about the whole thing. so the next season i was on a road trip in new york. 3 of my team mates called me in to one of the hotel rooms and said they had to talk to me about somethin. they had said that they had seen my girlfriend had some partys recently and that they think she had cheated on me with one of the kids that was on the higher team the year before. I felt like i had been hit in the chest with a cannonball. I thought she was the one i was gunna spend the rest of my life with and my whole world just had been thrown upside down. so it turns out that a year earlier when we first started to have those problems when i was away and she wasnt answering when i was calling was when she cheated. When i got back home i called her right away and talked to her about the whole thing. As soon as i told her what i had heard she hung the phone up right away. I got a hold of her again shortly after and we talked about it for hours. After being on the phone for a long time i still told her i wanted to try to work through the whole thing and still be together. she said that it would never be the same and all that stuff. So im heartbroken for the longestime. im still callin her and trying to get us back together. but i get hit in the chest with another cannonball when i find out that she already has a new boyfriend.

so after about 8 months i realized that we most likely werent getting back together. Its now been about a year and a half since we broke up. Ive been in other relationships since but she is still always in my head. Everytime i go to sleep at night i cant help to think about her. We still talk now and then and hang out every once and a while. After all that ive been through i still feel like a love this girl as much as anyone can love another human. I feel like no matter what i do im not gunna be truely happy unless we get back together.

MickeyDeanEveryone
03-02-2009, 03:55 AM
Wow almost sounds like a flashback for me. I pretty much went through the exact same thing...except she pretty much cheated again after I gave her another chance. I wise man once told me *cough* Stoner *cough* that 'once a cheater, always a cheater' and it was the most simple, but best advise given to me. I know what it feels like to have every hope and dream bound to a woman that you love so much and to STILL want her after what she has done. But if she had the poor conscience to cheat, that aspect will always be with her and she will most likely do it again down the road.
Like I said...I went through something very similar. Feel free to PM me if you want more details.

**Sapphire**
03-02-2009, 01:03 PM
Welcome to ATLF, glad that you joined us here. :)

I'm sorry that your going through such a rough time. What your ex did was very uncalled for & you deserve much better than her.

It's hard to get over someone, especially in the situation you found yourself in with her. Keep doing whatever you doing though, spending time with friends, maybe don't contact her & that might help to ease the feelings you still have for her.

You have all of us here to help you through it as well.

Cyberpunk
03-02-2009, 03:45 PM
It's hard to get a person you've invested so much time into out of your thoughts. It's especially disheartening when you know you two are better off without each other, yet you're still in love with them.

You say you've been through a few relationships, but maybe you haven't found the right one yet. Keep hanging in there.