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[alaskastar]

to make a long story short about 2 weeks ago i caught my boyfreind on a dating line. he said he was just wonder what everyone was doing he didnt cheat. when i found out 3 days ago he payed for it i asked him he got mad and left. i got my dear john letter today telling me we need to part ways because he wont be called a lier we cant solve this issue. he made it clear this is what he wants. i came down here a year ago to be with him now i dont know what to do. to expensive to go back home.:confused:

[Penguin_Woman]

Wow...what a mess. Well, I can tell you that he probably wasn't just "checking it out". Especially if it's something he paid for. As for the other problem...well, I don't know. Do you have anyone back home who can help you? If not...well, I guess your only choice is to start over there without them. Hopefully someone else will jump in, they may have a better idea.

[pika]

Thats the part where most girls unknowingly committed to relationships.

I have also warned my friend who initially decide to pack her bags and leave to a stranger country to stay her new life with the other parties....i have seen worse scenerios.....

Anyway, my advice to you is just fly back to your family. Do you have any friends in this country? If do maybe you would like to seek their help? At the same time talk to your boyfriend

[Tuxie]

to make a long story short about 2 weeks ago i caught my boyfreind on a dating line. he said he was just wonder what everyone was doing he didnt cheat. when i found out 3 days ago he payed for it i asked him he got mad and left. i got my dear john letter today telling me we need to part ways because he wont be called a lier we cant solve this issue. he made it clear this is what he wants. i came down here a year ago to be with him now i dont know what to do. to expensive to go back home.:confused:
Ouch! So is he saying he didn't pay for it... or that he just didn't cheat? Trust me, there are enough 'free' dating sites around... he shouldn't hafta pay for one just to find out what they're all about. What's he checking these out for anyway? If he's "with you" now, why should he care what everyone is doing?

I agree with Tuxette... if he paid for it, he's not just checking out what's going on. Judging by his reaction, it seems like he's overreacting to the whole thing. Sort of like someone who's feeling guilty about something.

That's too bad about the situation you're in. I'm sorry for the way things worked out for you in this. Tuxette has some solid suggestions for you... I can't really add anything here.

I wish you the best with this... keep us updated. :)

[alaskastar]

he claims he didnt know he was paying for it he said they thought he just wanted the info {just in case }. he stays gone all the time now and staying at our other home. he refuses to talk to me. he tells me since he didnt lie he was 100% honest hr wont be called a liar since i do not beleive him that is the problem so it cant be solved. no i dont have any family that can help. as far as freind we live in a remote area so that dont work either.